And, speaking of boners...
"My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5. The sex used to be pretty good. Then she got pregnant and it stopped. I understood there could be alot of reasons why she didn't want it then. Now, our daughter is almost 2 and there still hasn't been any sex of any kind. She won't even do oral or give me a hand job. I've asked why, she says she can't explain it, she just doesn't want to anymore. We've argued relentlessly and I think it's beginning to effect our daughter. I've asked for counseling, she thinks it's stupid to waste money like that when we have bills to pay.
I reached my wits end last weekend with an erection that wouldn't go down. My balls ached something awful. I begged. She still wouldn't give in. So I took matters into my own hands - right there in bed. She rolled away to face the other wall. She hasn't spoken to me since.
I love her and my daughter but something has to give. Any suggestions?"
Whew.... I'm stumped on this one. When we say "guys have needs" this is what we're talking about. Boners can be relentless, and our balls ache something awful, until we satisfy the need to ejaculate.
What did she expect? Don't answer that - it's rhetorical. You shouldn't have to apologize, or be punished for still having a sex drive. That she's giving you the cold shoulder-slash-silent treatment because you jacked off is something I don't understand at all. You shouldn't have to hide in the bathroom (or anywhere else).