From the Mail Bag:
"I have a rather unique situation. Due to a lack of dorm rooms on campus I agreed to room with a guy. It’s a co-ed dorm but that usually means on the same floors not the same rooms. The RA gave us her blessing. Anyway, it’s been pretty good. We get along and there’s no interest beyond friends (he’s gay).
It’s coming to the end of the year and he’s been hinting around that he would like to room together next year. I promised him an answer when Easter break is over. That he sleeps naked doesn’t bother me. Neither do his morning erections I know he has no control over those. But he jerks off almost every night. He tries to be unobtrusive, the lights are off and he strokes under the covers. But I still know he’s doing it because of the rustling of the sheet and his moaning. He thinks he’s being quiet when he cums but he isn’t really. Then the fragrance of cum permeates the small room.
How do I tell him I’d love to be roomies again but he’s got to curtail the masturbation?"
Well, I’ve been in the same situation – with guys, though, and told them there’s no need to hide it. Good lord! we all masturbate. Don’t worry about me. Just go for it when the mood strikes.
You, on the other hand, don’t want to watch or listen to his self-ministrations. Yet, it’s not fair to tell him he can’t. Or that he has to limit it to the bathroom. He lives there (it’s his living room/bedroom, too) and has just as much right to feel comfortable.
You either tell him he can’t whack off in the room anymore,
or you tell him you won’t room with him in future years. Either way you look like the bad guy when he’s at least been making an effort to shelter you.
Readers, any suggestions?