More communication. But, how do you talk to your spouse/partner about sex? How does one even begin? Michelle Matthews offers some tips worth trying in her article for Meduim, "How To Talk About Sex Issues With Your Partner." What makes her an expert on that subject? She and her husband had issues themselves.
She leave us with tips:1. Create a mood that foster’s communication — no yelling allowed and make sure everyone is in a good mood. No one is going to be receptive when they’re tired.
2. Make sure your partner knows that you want to open up a dialogue. Not everyone is open to talking about sex freely so ask them how comfortable they feel in discussing it. The answer may surprise you.
3. Use I statements. I feel. I think. When you speak to someone and only say you don’t do this or you always do that, it’s argumentative and puts someone on the defensive.
4. Don’t expect changes to occur overnight. It’s a process. Make sure your partner knows that you don’t expect a change overnight.
5. Encourage them to see a doctor if you think it might be necessary and go with them.
6. The most important thing: Listen. Say your peace but know when to shut up.
In the case of our writer of the other day, if her husband would just tell her he needs the time to unwind and get rid of the tension of the day, that jacking off does that for him, that he feels he's more pleasant to be around for the rest of the day, it just might do the trick.
I mean, come on, who wants to deal with a crabby spouse? If kicking back and masturbating remedies that, well, have at it. But, I would honestly suggest that he allow her to join him once in a while.
After all, maybe she's has a crappy day, too.
Have a good weekend. Go relieve some stress.