Blogger buddy Gabriel (Barefoot Men) points out that Big Whack Attack has rolled past the 8 million mark. Holy crap. Never expected this would become that popular. I've covered a wide variety of subjects to hopefully help educate (and entertain) men and women, gay, straight, or bi on keeping the man parts healthy in body, mind, and spirit.
Part of that process of maintaining healthy man parts is to pay attention to them. But not become too obsessed. There will be times when you're thinking a roll in the hay, or stroking is in the cards, and your cock just isn't agreeable; it doesn't cooperate with even the slightest hardening.
It's nothing to fret about. Unless...unless that situation continues to plague you for several weeks. The lack of boners for that long means something is off-kilter and it's time to seek medical attention.
That doesn't mean that there's something wrong with the man parts - it could be a new medication, a combination of medications. Even an overdose of vitamins can have a negative effect, resulting in a loss of erections.
Listen to your cock.
It talks to you in a language you may not fully understand, but it's talking nonetheless.
"We've been married for a bit over 3 months. I'd seen my husband with an erection while he sleeps but never ejaculate that way. It was during my period and I just don't want anything to do with sex. He woke me up moaning and talking in his sleep. I rolled over and he had his hand wrapped around his penis masturbating. I thought his other hand was on his balls, but realized he had fingers pushing into his butt. I asked if he was awake and all I got was another mumble that sounded like "ram it to me harder." Ram it to me harder? What gives? Was he dreaming about a man fucking him?"
Could be. He wouldn't be the first heterosexual guy to have sexual fantasies about taking it up the ass. Remember the prostate is the male g-spot. Sexual dreams are pretty common - especially if a guy may have gone a while without cumming. We get those nocturnal erections and any stimulation to it can turn a dream into a sexual escapade.
Maybe your husband is fluidly bisexual. You might want to broach the subject with him. Not in any accusatory manner, but like you want to help him enjoy himself. He might surprise you and ask that you get a strap-on. Lot's of straight guys enjoy it.
As Dear Abby has said, we need to keep things spiced up in the bedroom. As Dan Savage would say, we owe it to our spouses to at least try new things.