Tuesday, June 27, 2017

What Is Porn?

What is porn? Because of the use of explicit language and imagery, the majority of our society would label this blog "pornography." I never intended it to be; in my opinion it isn't. To my thinking, it is educational and informative. At least that is what I strive for.


Faithful Reader Jean sent a wonderful link from the NY Times. Op-ed contributor Lux Alptraum hits upon some major points I've tried to make, but without photos and without rhetoric which might be considered vulgar.
For me, words are words; "penis" conjures the same mental image as "cock;"
"boner" or "hard-on" brings to mind the same thing as "erection,"
and it simply depends upon personal preference and, at times, the situation. The same might be said for photos, gifs, and videos; yet "a picture is worth a thousand words." But, interpretation will differ. Where one might see two men engaging in sex, I might see two men in the midst of a buddy ball-and-cock check.
What would this gif conjure?
For me, Alptraum's most important point is this:

We belong to "...a culture where sex education is minimal, fear based, and often inaccurate; parents treat the sex talk as a shameful task to be gotten over with as quickly as possible; ... We need to stop treating sex as a taboo topic and start treating it as an ordinary aspect of life, one that young people should be educated about in all its weird, wonderful, risky and rewarding complexity."

Read the entire op-ed piece here: NY Times - The Opinion Pages

What do you think: What constitutes porn?



Monday, June 26, 2017

Dominant Hand

What I thought was a wrenched muscle isn't. It appears the situation is tied to the M.D. It's worsened over the past few days, and it's getting more difficult to do anything with my left arm. It will take some doing to learn how to work with it - or around it.
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Have I ever mentioned I'm rather a bit ambidextrous? Yet, I'm primarily a Southpaw; it's my dominant hand. Lots of things will need adjusting.
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Anyway, as I learn to adjust, the posts may be shorter.
I hope you'll bear with me. 

Friday, June 23, 2017

Overcome Those Issues

There is so much worry about cock size.... Particularly in our youth, we men are obsessed with it. Even guys who are in the average range (2" - 2.5", flaccid) are afraid of being ridiculed for having a "small dick."
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Pornography gets a lot of the blame for poor self-image of the cock. We see pictures and videos of these men with long, thick boners and we think that is what we should see when we look in a mirror. That may have been true in the past - but now there are plenty of guys getting into the business whose cocks are an average size.
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Micro-penis is defined as a penis under 3" when hard; the definition of which derives from the inability to penetrate the vagina. That doesn't mean you can't enjoy it. It still feels sensation, it can still provide pleasure.
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A lot of those misconceptions and fears dissipate as we get older. We begin to understand that size doesn't matter all that much, we begin to accept what we have.
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And, remember when you were in school and you were so afraid of getting an erection in the showers or the locker room? That is also an issue of body image. We're so afraid that someone will notice our cock actually functions.
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There are places which can help you overcome those issues.

I may have had the advantage of 9+ years in the military, but Tantra Yoga and Massage has still helped me become more comfortable in my own skin; to accept that, like all other men, I have a a pair of balls, I have a cock that gets hard and stands up. Do an internet search for groups in your area.
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Body Electric weekend seminars also helped. To be blindfolded and then undressed by others, to stand fully naked, was an awakening. To be in a circle and deliberately look at one another's genitals further embedded normalcy and acceptance.
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And, I cannot discount group masturbation. What a wonderful experience to be among other men, to see their cocks rise up, to then discover there is no shame in enjoying the sight or the normalcy of men deriving pleasure from that.
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Billy Jack announced yesterday the Healthy Friction Fall Weekend in Palm Springs. It will take place October 12 - 15. If you go, you will find men of all ages, shapes, and, yes, sizes. You will encounter all sexual orientations. Yes, plenty of straight men love these gatherings. It's freeing, it's male bonding, it's camaraderie, it's discovering that your cock (with tiny variations) is no different than the rest, that the pleasure it gives is universal. If you want to go, sign up now. It sells out fast.
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Have a wonderful weekend!




Thursday, June 22, 2017

Defining Moment

In the Jewish religion, it's the Bar Mitzvah which signals you are now a man. As I read the stories of the 100 men, I realized we all reach a defining point but it comes at different ages and stages of our lives.
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In our pubescent youth, we think the boner and being able to cum is it. We jack off incessantly - well, most of us do - to try to tame the perpetual hard-on.
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We age a bit, we lose our virginity by having partner sex. Then many move on to thinking the Conquering Cock boosts us to a new level of manhood. More sex, more partners make us a man.
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Tears ran down my face as I read one man's story because his defining moment happened when he finally stood up to his bullying father. That was when he realized he'd achieved manhood. That was mine. I'd had enough of his fists, razor straps, and verbal abuse. It had nothing to do with my cock, how big it was, how I used it, how often I used it, or who I used it with.

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What was your defining moment?