Friday, April 19, 2019

Female Dorm Mate Needs Help

From the Mail Bag:

"I have a rather unique situation. Due to a lack of dorm rooms on campus I agreed to room with a guy. It’s a co-ed dorm but that usually means on the same floors not the same rooms. The RA gave us her blessing. Anyway, it’s been pretty good. We get along and there’s no interest beyond friends (he’s gay).
It’s coming to the end of the year and he’s been hinting around that he would like to room together next year. I promised him an answer when Easter break is over. That he sleeps naked doesn’t bother me. Neither do his morning erections I know he has no control over those. But he jerks off almost every night. He tries to be unobtrusive, the lights are off and he strokes under the covers. But I still know he’s doing it because of the rustling of the sheet and his moaning. He thinks he’s being quiet when he cums but he isn’t really. Then the fragrance of cum permeates the small room.
How do I tell him I’d love to be roomies again but he’s got to curtail the masturbation?"

Well, I’ve been in the same situation – with guys, though, and told them there’s no need to hide it. Good lord! we all masturbate. Don’t worry about me. Just go for it when the mood strikes.

You, on the other hand, don’t want to watch or listen to his self-ministrations. Yet, it’s not fair to tell him he can’t. Or that he has to limit it to the bathroom. He lives there (it’s his living room/bedroom, too) and has just as much right to feel comfortable.
You either tell him he can’t whack off in the room anymore,

or you tell him you won’t room with him in future years. Either way you look like the bad guy when he’s at least been making an effort to shelter you.
Readers, any suggestions?

Thursday, April 18, 2019

As Equals

We all have things which arouse us. Particularly men because we're so visually oriented. But, in the article "Why I Only Watch Gay Porn," by Tracybyfire, for Medium gives some starting reasons why she prefers M-M porn. She's done a lot of porn viewing in research for her erotica writing and discovered, straight porn "really wasn’t my thing."
Too much awkward digging and probing, not to mention the really crappy dialogue.
But gay porn, "was it. Two men, sometimes more, acting as equals, sometimes less. No misogyny, better dialogue, more abs, less awkward clitoral stimulation. It was magical.

Even if there was a power struggle, it didn’t reek of men’s domination over women. In gay porn, it’s an even playing field from the start.
I get mixed reactions when I tell anyone that I vastly prefer gay porn over straight porn. People rarely understand, except for gay men. They get it, and so do I."

But surprisingly enough, or maybe not, straight men also love gay porn. It used to be that straight men would say the close-ups of cocks and money shots enabled them to relate. In what they called "transference," they could imagine it happening to them.

But, with gay porn, I think it stems right back to what Tracy is saying. The men in gay porn are equals - there's equal time, equal stimulation, equal satisfaction.

And the camera is right there with the close-up on the cocks and money shots.

Wednesday, April 17, 2019

Hormones and Headaches

It's long been known that migraines and hormones are linked for many women. My own mom suffered for many years until she underwent a complete Historectomy.
Studies are now showing the same in men. And, it appears that Low T (low testosterone) may be the culprit.
Replacement therapy is showing these guys some relief with cluster headaches. "The Connection Between Low T and Headaches," from Healthline details a recent published study.
"A more recent study published in the journal Maturitas looked at the effect of testosterone on migraine headaches in a small group of pre- and postmenopausal women. The researchers found that implanting small testosterone pellets under the skin helped to relieve migraines in both groups of women.
More research is needed to test these findings to learn if testosterone therapy is a safe and effective treatment for some types of headaches. It’s possible that testosterone might help prevent or relieve headaches by:
  • stopping cortical spreading depression (CSD), a disruption of electrical activity in your brain that may cause migraines
  • increasing levels of serotonin, a neurotransmitter that carries messages from one part of your brain to another
  • widening blood vessels in your brain, which can help improve blood flow
  • reducing swelling in your brain
T replacement hasn't been FDA approved for treating headaches, but you can still talk to your doctor about using it as an experimental treatment. Because, chances are, if you have Low T, you're also suffering with flagging erections and low libido.
If you've noticed fewer mornings with solid boners, a lower number of spontaneous boners, and boners which are not quite up to par, and those symptoms last longer than a few weeks...if the issue is not anxiety, depression, or illness, Low T could be the problem.

But, I would caution any guy looking for testosterone replacement therapy to go for a bio-identical cream. There are way fewer side effects than the typical stuff prescribed by physicians.
You may have to bicker with your insurance provider to convince them to cover the cream but, in the long run, it will be worth it.

Tuesday, April 16, 2019

A Layer of Shaming

Courtesy of Boston Globe
The news of the fire destroying so much of the iconic Notre Dame de Paris Cathedral is sad. So sad, I cried to see such beauty damaged.
And, speaking of beauty.... Richard Madden,
an actor in Game of Thrones (whose character has already been killed off) and the upcoming Rocketman (biopic of Elton John) has done his share of nude scenes.
We always hear of women's plight in having to lose weight and be model perfect. In a recent interview in Vogue, Madden said,
"I find myself with actor friends – after we’ve done a kind of barely eating, working-out-twice-a-day, no-carbing thing for these scenes – looking at each other going: ‘We’re just feeding this same shit that we’re against.’”
“I’ve done numerous jobs where you’re told to lose weight and get to the gym,” Madden continued, “it doesn’t just happen to women, it happens to men all the time as well.”'

This form of body-shaming, though we're slowly emerging from hiding men's genitals on the "big screen"

as if they're something lewd, crude, and disgusting,
adds a layer of shaming men must somehow overcome. IMO, this is part of the reason so many men hide behind towels in gym locker rooms.
I hope Madden and other actors get heard, though. Because we aren't all built like porn stars.

And our cocks are nothing to be ashamed of.