Boners, Random Acts of

File this one under Boners, Random Acts of. 

Over the past few days I've been watching episodes of The Politician on Netflix. It's about a high school campaign for class president. It's dark humor from the team of Brad Falchuck and Ryan Murphy, those genius minds behind American Horror Story.

Episode 5 is titled "The Voter," and focuses on campaign staff hounding the undecideds. One such voter is a young guy who wants only to be left alone to jerk off in peace. He's interrupted in a single day by 1. his mother, first thing in the morning for breakfast, 2. three different people entering the All Gender restroom where he's locked himself in a stall, 3. his mother again, requesting his presence at the dinner table.

One of those times, his inner thoughts question, "If I play with my butt hole while I jerk off, does that make me gay?"

Nope. Not at all. It only means you've discovered a highly sensitive, erogenous zone to add pleasure to the act.

Another inner thought: "Shit, I have another random boner." Then, if I remember correctly, "What am I supposed to do with that?"

Well, one silver lining of this whole shelter-in-place thing is we no longer have daily life interfering with those spontaneous boners we get all the time. Now we have the luxury of acknowledging them. And enjoying them as never before.

When they strike - and they will - embrace the opportunity.

Cared For As Such

An Anonymous left a comment last week asking if the reports were true regarding the COVID-19 and men's fertility. I am happy to say that the initial report out of China has been removed from the web.

Here's what an article in BioNews had to say about the situation:

The initial report, "which was published on the Hubei government's website and widely shared on Chinese social media before being retracted, claimed that men who had contracted and recovered from the disease should seek medical advice to determine whether the virus had affected their fertility."

That report was based on past fertility issues in patients of the SARS virus - which is also a type of coronavirus. In speaking to "Newsweek, Professor Allan Pacey, a leading expert in male fertility at the University of Sheffield, emphasised that the article is a 'short discussion' paper that has not been peer-reviewed and 'highly theoretical.'

'It is intended to alert the medical and scientific community to the possible impact COVID-19 may have on the male reproductive system,' he said.

If you might be trying to father children, it might be a good idea to have a simple semen analysis. "Those who have tested positive for the coronavirus and concerned about their fertility should discuss this with their family doctor, Professor Pacey suggested. Men can have a 'relatively simple' semen analysis three months after infection. [bold is mine]

The tests may be more valuable for experts looking at the potential link between coronavirus and male fertility on a population-wide scale."

Many things can have an effect of male fertility. The male apparatus is a highly complex system.

It should be cared for as such.

Masturbation Coaches

Even under normal circumstances some men have difficulty getting a full erection, or managing to ejaculate.

Those can be detrimental to your health - mentally as well as physically.

The worst thing is that the typical guy will grow ever more anxious and compound the problem. Waking day after day not greeted by the usual morning wood, not being able to rouse even the slightest boner.

Then, of course, the balls start to ache and the frustration builds even further.

We think of sex therapists as people who are there to help us get back in the saddle after a traumatic experience. But, they help many guys learn to regain the ability after prostate surgery - or from some other issue causing ED. And, part of that process is Masturbation Coaching.

But, they not only help in that process, many will help people rediscover the pleasure to be found in their bodies. As Sophia Benoit points out, "it may sound like a fake job title cooked up by a calculating Bachelorette producer, it's a real job that helps people," in the July 2019 GQ article, "What It's Like to Go to a Masturbation Coach." 

"In fact," she continues, "masturbation coaching is one of the best tools sex therapists and coaches have to help with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and inability to orgasm. But it can also be helpful for folks who simply want to improve their overall sex skills or increase their pleasure." [bold is mine]

In this time of "shelter at home," some coaches are not only willing but prepared to do therapy sessions via video chats. Licensed ones may use secure chats that comply with HIPPA regs. They're easy to find with a simple internet search, like Emancipating-Sexuality in San Francisco.

This is not jacking off. Much of what they will teach is what I (and others) have been saying: Mindful Masturbation. Learning to be in the moment and aware of the pleasure centers.

You've got all weekend. Stay safe. Stay healthy.

Now, get out of the bedroom.

And masturbate.

As You Cum

Last week I had a question from one of the Faithful Readers who always posts anonymously. He questions why he has always done hands-free ejaculation, and he can't seem to continue stroking.

Yet, the flip side of the coin is lot's of men would love to be able to cum hands-free and can't.

The body's natural instinct is to thrust as deeply as possible with each contraction to get the semen as deep into the vagina as possible. The closer to the egg, the easier the trip. So, the natural inclination when masturbating is to stroke fully along the shaft with each spurt. And the hips usually have a tendency to thrust forward as well.

However, there are some men who thrust deep at the point of cumming and remain there until the orgasm is finished. These are men who - my guess is - stop stroking when they shoot. And one reason may be - I'm guessing, here - is due to an overly-sensitive glans.

The head of the cock gets more and more sensitive as the activity increases and is at it's most sensitive when we hit the point of no return and cum. Some men have serious issues with this - it can actually hurt when they cum.

Any touch, any movement, any sensation at all hurts. As a result, they cease their stroking altogether. Desensitizing cream can help with that. But using too much can have a detrimental effect and have the ejaculation delayed and delayed and delayed until you're desperate to cum.

I'd suggest practicing mindful masturbation. Be aware of your cock and the stimulation at all times. In that way, you may be able to continue stroking as you cum.

You may also want to consider a Masturbation Coach.

Yep. You read that right.

A Masturbation Coach.

(more tomorrow)