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A recent email exchange:
"my sister is 6mo pregnant with twins and having a pretty tough time. my bil keeps complaining he's tired of jerking off. I get the feeling he's wanting me to lend him a hand. should I?"
Oh, my, what a can of worms that could open. While lots of straight, married dudes are into mutual masturbation, this is rather "close to home," as it were. What do you think your sister would say if she found out?
Here's my suggestion. IF you are willing. Tell him you're more than happy to help him out --- if he gets your sister's OK.
"she gave her ok to me directly. she said anything to get him away from me until this is over. so we did but then we sucked each others dicks, too. do I tell my sister about that?"
If she gave her OK, I have a feeling that she knows he's Bi. And that would include sucking cock. Just make sure you stick to her rule: Until this is over. Then, I would presume, she'll want her husband to herself again.
Readers, Any thoughts?
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"my sister is 6mo pregnant with twins and having a pretty tough time. my bil keeps complaining he's tired of jerking off. I get the feeling he's wanting me to lend him a hand. should I?"
Oh, my, what a can of worms that could open. While lots of straight, married dudes are into mutual masturbation, this is rather "close to home," as it were. What do you think your sister would say if she found out?
Here's my suggestion. IF you are willing. Tell him you're more than happy to help him out --- if he gets your sister's OK.
"she gave her ok to me directly. she said anything to get him away from me until this is over. so we did but then we sucked each others dicks, too. do I tell my sister about that?"
If she gave her OK, I have a feeling that she knows he's Bi. And that would include sucking cock. Just make sure you stick to her rule: Until this is over. Then, I would presume, she'll want her husband to herself again.
If she's all right with it I don't see a problem. But this could still end itself into a messy situation. No pun intended
Bad idea. Even with her permission. Because now the B-I-L is going to want some every time she goes out of town. Or their having a fight. Or just because the two guys are together.
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Oh my, this is complicated and I am sure there are going to be some hurt feelings in the long run.
It could. Open, honest communication is required.
That is a distinct possibility. It'll be up to the brother to ensure his sister isn't left out of any conversations.
So long as everyone is happy, right?
There could very well be. This trio needs very clear boundaries.
Thank you for the summary.
I think we all need to accept "my body, my choice" as a foundational principle: thanks feminism. That doesn't mean there aren't emotional consequences, however emotions are our own responsibility not someone elses to manage. Unfortunately society struggles to accept this principle.
Therefore, it doesn't seem to be a problem to me for a man to get unmet sexual needs met with another man, if his female partner is uninterested: it's not cheating any more than masturbation is cheating because a man is not providing something to the other man that he is not providing to his female partner, since she has rejected that something for her own reasons. To do anything else means he is unreasonably enslaved to her wishes, including being malicious. This would not apply if the man was seeing another woman because the situation is different: man on man is just recreational sex, however man on woman has the potential for offspring and love to complicate matters.
When I first read the article, I immediately thought of the brother giving the BIL a fleshlight or fuck doll and a spare room to use them, not lending a hand. I guess it depends on what "tired of jerking off" actually means: tired of using his hand, tired of not getting similar sensation or tired of not getting the extra element of shared intimacy with another person. Is this about the brother projecting his own desires into the situation?
I'm not so sure it will be over after the birth: twins would be a lot of effort, leaving little energy for anything else and it doesn't change the reality of the male desire for sex sometimes being greater than a female partner's, where a man should be able to satisfy his surplus sexual needs in meaningful ways to him that don't deprive his partner, because after all it is his body. It's even possible for women to lose some interest in sex once they have the children they wanted.
To be non-sexist, I don't see a problem with a woman getting surplus sexual needs met by another woman, as long as it doesn't deprive her male partner of his sexual needs.
I think it is ridiculous to be imposing limits on what sexual activity both men mutually wish to engage in (beyond safer sex), since it is about the man's needs, not hers that have been waived anyway.
It's one thing to want a husband to re-engage in sex when a woman wants it again, but quite another to want him to herself if she is not meeting his needs: it's never all about the woman or the man but win-win for what both want.
I don't think it make any difference that the man is a relative as it's his business what he does with his body and with whom. Just like a male masseur giving a happy ending to his Dad should be no different than to any other man when it comes to the needs of men and men having the autonomy to choose what they do with their body and with whom.
Idunno? I am of a generation that had now clue how to behave when it came to sex. We were prudish idiots. I do not know the age of the OP, but I do know from anecdotal conversations that the generation following the Millennials are far more open minded, rational and well, frankly adult about sex. I say, "Good luck!"
Even if she says ok, this is between her and her husband, don't interfere in the couple, it always ends in trouble. Think about the baby that's going to be born!
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