Happy Friday.
"I guess I'm what some people call an incel cuz all I ever done was jack off at home. I'm just shy really and never knew how tro talk to people so I thought maybe a jack off group might help me meet people. it turned out to be all guys which was fine I guess but I want to meet some girls. are there any where women are there too?"
You could also consider a swinger's club where consensual heterosexual activity takes place. Those are in pretty much every major city.
Regardless of what type of group you decide on, remember to always play safe. While jack-off groups typically don't allow anything more than lending a hand, swinger's clubs even allow penetration.
Make sure they have a supply of condoms --- or take some with you.