"whens the first time you saw a dick that wasn't yours or a family members or saw one hard that wasn't yours or a family members?"
Oh, gosh. Probably the first gym PE when we were forced to put on jock straps and take showers afterward. First boner? A buddy's when we started jerking off together.
But really, I would consider military basic training the real eye-opener. That's when I learned boners weren't all about sex. Waking up in the barracks with 39 guys rushing to the latrine wagging their morning wood to the open urinals and gang showers.
"I consider myself straight but I've always been fascinated by dick. I like to look at them, for sure and love watching j/o videos. A while back I went to a Rain City Jacks meeting. It was an interesting experience watching everyone but not really my thing. How do I find a dude who wants to get together for some 1 on 1? Grindr sucks, they all want more than that and taking an ad on Craigslist is too scary. Any suggestions?"
Trust me, you are not an outlier. Even straight porn focuses on the boners, plain and simple. Particularly when it time for the Money Shot - because that's what everyone is there to see.
The jack off groups aren't for everyone. But they do report that approximately 20 to 25% of those attending identify as straight, and many of those are married.
Particularly in the small private groups.
I think a lot of folks will tell you Grindr is for folks looking for more than mutual masturbation. And Craigslist? Well, let's say it seems a bit, um...seedy? so I don't blame you on that score. Bateworld is mostly an online thing for video chatting and bating.
But, there's a website called Buddy Bate that's exactly what you're seeking. It's specifically for men looking to hook up in real life to masturbate.
The logo has an embedded link
Since you mentioned trying out Rain City Jacks, you'll be happy to know that you'll find a lot of guys in that area on Buddy Bate.
Faithful Reader Ian would like us to have a discussion. He sent these two music AI-created music videos (which is a thing, I guess?)
and then poses the question:
"These cowboy songs perhaps hold the promise of replacing Dad jokes and enabling adult male talk among men via humour.
It's even worse with women feeling they are the only ones deserving choice over sex and not understanding that every time a woman chooses not to have sex, they are also choosing for men, who get no independent choice of their own. There's a queue of men behind every woman waiting for them to say yes, but not the reverse, because men's sexual expression is currently tied to womens choice. That isn't to say we advocate for men overriding women's choice over sex, but men need to be able to make their own choice over sexual expression and have that fulfllled like every woman on this planet potentially can, if they only said yes, and this means breaking the monopoly women have over sex by making men aware of other possibilities that gay men have understood for ages because of need."
Well, I think women are becoming more sexually active, but they do get to decide --- like everyone should --- who they will engage with.
The old adage, 'Necessity is the mother of invention,' rings true, though. If men want sexual release or fulfillment, there are options, and having a male FWB has become more acceptable within mainstream society. Bisexuality has been accepted as "normal." Which, I think, may be why the evangelicals have been pushing back so intently.
