Benefits of Boner Buds

First I think I need to clear something up. In yesterday’s post I questioned whether “gay for pay” was an indication of actually being bisexual. I should have made it clear that it enters the realm of bisexuality when guys get into heavy kissing, sucking one another off, and getting fucked in the ass. If you can easily move from male-female to that type of male-male activity it’s definitely in the aforementioned category.

Now, to move on to kicking back and pounding one out with your best bud or boning up with a larger group of men for some mutual enjoyment. As I explained before, and more recently to one faithful reader, mutual masturbation amongst men does not mean you’re gay or bi and it will not make you become gay or bi. It’s a normal, common activity which stays buried in the proverbial closet because so many straight guys fear those labels.

But there are real benefits to the activity beyond getting ones rocks off and the physical and mental relief that comes with it. I promised an update from the reader who organized a jack off group. And his latest report confirms one of the additional advantages of getting together with a bunch of guys: The sharing of pertinent information that can only come from the bond of a common experience.

Shortly after they lightened the load of their man-berries, one guy (married, straight) admitted he’d been having a little bit of difficulty in maintaining a decent hard-on. Now, keep in mind, none of the guys brought him down by mentioning they’d indeed noticed; he offered the information hoping to get some advice. He hadn’t discussed it with his wife – we never do, do we guys? – for fear of, well, for fear of being ridiculed or, worse yet, being questioned about her attractiveness which so often is the case with the way our female partners minds work. (Sad, but true.)

The guys immediately jumped to his aid without the slightest hint of ridicule and inquired if he’d sought out the advice of a doctor. No, he hadn’t. In typical man fashion, though it bothered him, he thought maybe it would correct itself. The fact that he couldn’t get his pecker fully powered up, no matter what the occasion (screwing around with his wife, playing solitaire, or with this group of guys), indicated the issue was physiological and could be as simple as low testosterone. That’s the first thing a doctor would ask him: “Can you get it hard and keep it up when you masturbate?” They encouraged him to go see his physician. (Thankfully) Happily, he agreed.

This is one of the truly beneficial things that can come from guys getting together and stroking cocks. It’s about more than getting our rocks off. We can talk about “guy things” that go beyond bitching about our wives/girlfriends or the latest sports on ESPN, and especially being able to discuss our male parts in a way that isn’t a joke. We can finally admit we like our cocks and our balls, in fact we’re glad we have them, without turning it into a self-deprecting joke. Suddenly, we’re able to admit to one another how much we love getting boners – even the ones that pop up and surprise us at the oddest times – and enjoy lovingly stroking them and shooting huge loads of cum. And being able to do that together, well, it just solidifies our membership in a true brotherhood.