What's Your Take?

 

Morning

Faithful Reader Ian would like us to have a discussion. He sent these two music AI-created music videos (which is a thing, I guess?)

and then poses the question:

"These cowboy songs perhaps hold the promise of replacing Dad jokes and enabling adult male talk among men via humour. 

It's even worse with women feeling they are the only ones deserving choice over sex and not understanding that every time a woman chooses not to have sex, they are also choosing for men, who get no independent choice of their own. There's a queue of men behind every woman waiting for them to say yes, but not the reverse, because men's sexual expression is currently tied to womens choice. That isn't to say we advocate for men overriding women's choice over sex, but men need to be able to make their own choice over sexual expression and have that fulfllled like every woman on this planet potentially can, if they only said yes, and this means breaking the monopoly women have over sex by making men aware of other possibilities that gay men have understood for ages because of need."

Well, I think women are becoming more sexually active, but they do get to decide --- like everyone should --- who they will engage with.

The old adage, 'Necessity is the mother of invention,' rings true, though. If men want sexual release or fulfillment, there are options, and having a male FWB has become more acceptable within mainstream society. Bisexuality has been accepted as "normal." Which, I think, may be why the evangelicals have been pushing back so intently.

What's your take, Readers?

Is It Okay?

 

Morning.

"Ever wake up in the middle of the night with your dick really hard and you couldn't get back to sleep? That was me the other night. I finally went into the livingroom and rubbed one out. When I crawled back into bed, he was like you should've nudged me I would've helped with that. Does your other half think it's okay to wake them up for sex?"

Not in many, many years. But in my younger days? On so many occasions. It happened early in my current marriage but I didn't go anywhere; I took care of it right there in bed and she never woke up. A few days later we were visiting friends and the subject arose. Everyone agreed, "Absolutely, it's okay to wake a partner for sex."

That's the communication part of a relationship, though. Plus, I'd say you've got an advantage: Your other half is a man,

and if anyone can understand the need to tame a midnight boner it would (should) be a guy.

What are your thoughts, Readers?

Is it okay to wake a partner for sex?

Another Rare Update & Random Boners

 

Good morning.

Way back in Nov. 2022, a divorced guy wrote about a friend who expressed interest in being bate buddies. In Dec. 2022, he sent an update that they had given it a try, enjoyed themselves, and a 3rd had joined in.

Now, more than a year later, he just sent the following:

"Another update: we now have 9 guys that join our bi-weekly bate group. Most of us meet when we where at the gym, so we do have more frequent play in the sauna. Just wanted to say thank you for your blog and your words of encouragement. Be safe."

The bi-weekly at a private home is preferable to a gym. Unless, of course, it's a men's spa or a place where it's condoned by management.

Then, this comment about random boners and jacking off was left on Friday's post:

"Is it normal for a guy to get random hardons during the day either at work or at home that can only be gotten rid of by masterbation ?
I only ask because I was working on a painting the other day that was unrelated to sex when ZI got a persistent hardon that I tried to ignore but after a couple of minutes I had to take a break to have a wank."

It's perfectly normal. Men get those spontaneous erections all the time to supply blood oxygen to the inner tissues. Testosterone levels vary from day to day and, sometimes, the boner just doesn't dissipate on its own. This is why you'll find - or hear about - guys taking a mid-day break to tame the beast.

Other Things

 Good morning

"A buddy of mine invites me over to hang out and skinny dip in his pool in summer. We've played around a little bit jacking off, his wife knows and doesn't care. this past weekend he had the house to himself and invited me over to hang out. We were having such a great time that I called my girlfriend and told her I was too drunk to drive and was spending the night in my buddy's guestroom but really spent the night in bed with him. What a fantastick weekend. The issue is that his wife and my girlfriend are getting to be bffs and my buddy and I are worried his wife is going to spill the beans. I really don't know how she'd take it but part of me wants to tell her before she finds out some other way. What would you do?"

Me? I'd sit her down and spill the beans myself. You know...like, "one thing led to another." She might understand the drinking led to "other things."

But, I have a feeling what will make her angry is that you lied about being too drunk to drive home - instead of just saying you both wanted you to spend the night.

Readers?