More on Boner Buds

So, to sort of continue our discussion from yesterday, my faithful reader expressed one of his fears in moving into the foray of buddy jack off: Guilt. Let’s make sure his facts are in order. He’s straight. He’s unattached in any way. He's strictly flying solo.

Subsidiary guilt is pretty common for straight guys. I fully understand it, too. As did the other straight men who were a part of the jack off group I attended. Whether we were married, had girlfriends, or going it solo (in every way!), those feelings of guilt hit us after we enjoyed whacking our willies with one another – hand-lending involved or not.

Oddly, the fact we’d been brave enough to stroke cock in the same room lent an air of ease and openness. Lots of those guys began meeting for lunches or coffee outside of the wank-meets and found themselves able to open up about all manner of things.

This is where you ladies have us guys at a disadvantage. You don’t need to see your girlfriends rubbing clit to feel comfortable. Men, on the other hand don’t ordinarily open up to one another. Ever.

It’s all in the upbringing. Dudes are left to handle and learn things on their own – unless it has to do with sports, or fixing the lawn mower. We’re told from a very early age by our fathers (or other male role models) when we dare to address certain subjects to “just man up and handle it.” This is why 85 to 90% of guys have to “stumble across” charming the one-eyed snake and learning how to use and enjoy it. That attitude carries over into adulthood and has an impact on every area of our lives.

In our out-of-meating meetings, we found the guilt was common. But we also discovered we were not alone in many other things. We discovered those group stroke-fests ultimately made us better men! We were more knowledgeable about our bodies, more comfortable with our bodies, and more able and comfortable talking about issues we faced. Which, of course, led us to realize we aren't alone in any of them. And from there, the feelings of guilt rapidly dissolved. And, as a result, the married (or otherwise attached) guys expressed that they now felt they were better husbands/boyfriends, because they were able to begin opening up a little bit more at home.

Certainly, having a buddy to jerk off with or getting off with a large group of dudes is not for everyone. Whacking off, as in anything else, is not a one-size fits all. Just like any other sexual activity, we all have our likes and dislikes; things that turn our cocks into rip-roaring rods of steel, while other activities can leave them as saggy as soggy bread.

All I’m saying here is, if you’ve had the inclination to try it – go for it. You may find out you really enjoy having a guy wrap his hand around your pole and grabbing a nice handful of his hard-on; you may like the satisfied feeling of delivering that well-known pleasure to another. You might find you just enjoy sitting next to one another, hands on your own cock and balls, watching some good porn and blasting out a load. Or, you may find you just prefer to stay home and keep your self-pleasure strictly to yourself.

Your cock is there for you to enjoy, guys. So, boner up and enjoy it!