"Your post today says we should be able to ask for something without reprisal I think you said if that's what we want. Well I have two roommates and we jerk off together sometimes. We even stroke each others dicks. Its cool, its fun, and I have been wanting for a long time to try sucking a guys dick. Do you it would be okay if I asked them to let me try it?"
Of course. What's the worst thing they can do? They might say, "No." What have you lost except the opportunity to do something you've wanted to try?
But, here's how to approach it if you're afraid to come right out and ask them to let you try:
"I wonder what it's like to suck a cock?"
I wouldn't be surprised if both volunteered to let you find out.
"I am what I am, And what I am needs no excuses" - from, "I Am What I Am," La Cage Aux Folles, music and lyrics by Jerry Herman. That musical, book by Harvey Fierstein, opened on Broadway in August of 1983. You'd think we would have made the full transition by now.
I've been having a great conversation via email with a Faithful Reader about the restrictions which have been put on males over the past five or six years with the advent of the Me Too movement. He laments that women are too quick to accuse with the slightest provocation. And questions why we all have to play such games when it comes to such a normal, natural thing as sex.
He asks why men are so afraid to be forthright. Even with one another, when the male's sex drive is geared more strongly embedded in our biology. Shouldn't men be able to openly and directly indicate what they want without fear of reprisal?
Well, the new generation coming into adulthood gives us hope for the future. Particularly for guys. According to this NYT article with a new label (lordy! I hate labels): Homiesexuals
As Steven Dam, a social media forecaster for Art and Commerce (a New York City talent agency) states, it's a “paradigm shift of some sort for an evolving form of masculinity that is no longer ashamed to show affection.”
The younger folks are embracing life. They're not afraid or ashamed to show affection even for their male friends with hugs and kisses. Even if that ventures into the sexual. And they aren't questioning or belittling orientation, they simply accept it all as human behavior.
"I did not know who else to ask about this. Lately, my urine stream was week and I called my doctor. As usual he instructed plenty of water, no caffeine and he prescribed some antibiotics. The next time I was in the shower I examined the tip of my glans and was shocked to discover that half of my opening had closed up. I found on-line that doctors do not know why it happens and my hands are tied and so are my doctors’ because I’m out of work and I have no medical insurance. What can I do? Thank you…… J"
First and foremost, I am not a physician. Any advice I dole out should not be taken as that of a medical professional. What I've been able to find is called Urethral Stricture. And according to the Urology Health there are several ways to treat this. 1. Urethral stretching, 2. Urethrotomy - cutting open the urethra with a laser, 3. Open Surgery - surgical procedure to remove the obstruction with possible reconstruction.
Not only does this depict uncut v cut, this shows urethral stricture
If possible, always begin with the simplest, least invasive treatment. That would be the Urethral Stretching. The doctor would insert a Sounding Rod to open the passage. It may take several treatments to fully accomplish this.
Because you don't have insurance and can't afford to see a Urologist, you could try this yourself. very, very carefully.
You would have get a Sounding Rod. One that you can sterilize with hot boiling water and alcohol both before and after you use it. You must find a lube, and make sure to keep the opening of the bottle clean. Wipe it down with alcohol before using it. Actually, I'd recommend a tube of old-fashioned KY Jelly, like your physician would use.
You cannot risk infection.
Make sure the tip is narrow and then widens along the length of the rod. VERY GENTLY, push the rod into the urethra. Slowly!!! And, don't rush things. It may take weeks or even months to open it without damage.
I don't know for sure, but I would imagine this would be a lot easier and safer to accomplish with a full erection.
And, maybe with the assistance of someone you can trust to be cautious.
I know some of my readers are in the medical field. Let's see if any may have a suggestion - or perhaps experience with Sounding Rods.
