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New Project Blitz

 

While Healthline is promoting porn and erotica as healthy, (Good for You and Better With Porn) we have the flip side with an expected all-out war on it. As Alyson at MEL magazine points out in her latest email blast, some states are raring to stop anyone from viewing anything they don't want you to see.

"Isabelle Kohn outlined the methods different states have undertaken to attempt to outlaw porn in a roundabout way. Wyoming and Utah are giving us a look at what the war on porn could look like in the years to come. These states have bills that aim to enforce anti-porn laws as part of a conservative strategy once known as Project Blitz."

It's a problem that First Amendment proponents must constantly fight. Who has the right to tell anyone what they can and cannot produce? Who has the right to decide what anyone can or cannot read or watch? The same people who claim the right to tell everyone else what they can and cannot do with their own bodies. The people who claim the right to tell everyone else who they can and cannot love, marry, or have sex with. The same people who claim the right to stop the most common and natural sex there is: Masturbation.

Are we headed for another Victorian Age?

Better With Porn

 

There's been a lot of talk about sex and erotica (porn). Especially in light of the mass killer in Atlanta claiming he shot those eight people because he was addicted to sex and porn and he felt guilty. So, kill some people, right?

But, it's bullshit. Plain and simple. Just as I wrote in a post last week. Just as Faithful Reader and fellow blogger Sixpence wrote in his blog (Lo) Imprescindible post today. Just as Gabrielle Kassel suggests in her Healthline series, "An Adult's Guide..."

"Listen twice as much as you talk. Don’t go to bed angry. These are the tenants of a happy, healthy relationship.

But there may be another: Watch adult videos together.

Yes, you read that right. According to some sex educators and relationship therapists, watching erotica can bring a whole lot of good (nay, great) to a relationship!"

Consuming porn, with a partner or alone, whether gay, straight, or bi, can actually teach us a lot, enhance our repertoire, and increase our enjoyment of sex (alone or with a partner). It helps with that all-important tool to any relationship: communication.

It can get you in the mood. It can heighten your arousal. It can normalize sex acts or positions.

Are there downsides? Of course. Just as there can be with anything.

Don't: Compare yourself or your partner - body or stamina - to what you see on screen. That can lead to all sorts of self-esteem issues.

Bottom line, writes Kassel, "So long as you find the right video(s), watching erotica with your partner(s) can be pleasurable!" There's no need or reason to feel guilty. Sex is good.

It can be made better with porn.

Good For You

 

The clouds dissipated yesterday in early afternoon and things warmed up. A step in the right direction.

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While the social media sites are trying their best to cut down on the "adult content" (Blogger has done so in the past), while some politicians are right now debating "free speech" (so they can say whatever nutty, offensive things they want), while some are trying to shame folks when it comes to sexual content, some people and publications are telling us erotica (or whatever you want to call it) is actually good for you. Whether consumed in words or visual content.

Take this series, Adult Entertainment and You, at Healthline. Gabriell Kessel has done the research for you and authored this informative series. Her bottom line take: Porn is good for you in many ways.

It can turn you on 👀 It can affirm sexual orientation 👀 It can Boost Self-esteem 👀 It can improve your relationship with your partner(s)

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But, as is being recently touted, it should be viewed "ethically." Meaning, they think you should pay for the content. It helps the companies to continue to produce. It helps the performers - many of whom are striking out on their own because some porn producers pay their actors a pittance.

But, whatever choice you make, Kessler says, "We live in a  pretty damn sex-negative world..." so she has recommendations for eradicating that sense of shame.

"Try: 

• unfollowing puritanical social media accounts and replacing them with sex education accounts
• learning about and speaking out against the violence against sex workers, trans women, and femmes
• joining or beginning a sex education book club
• working with a sex-positive therapist

You might even try talking about sex with your partners and friends."

Sex is part of a healthy, adjusted life. Learn to enjoy it, and enjoy yourself.