Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Teaching Position

So, we’re sitting out on the patio when my niece says she’s in a quandary. It so happened her oldest son was out in the yard with some neighborhood kids when, out of the blue, he popped a very obvious hard-on. She told him to take it into the house and “maybe he better stop wearing sweatpants like that.” (sans underwear). Then her younger son pipes up and spills the beans that his older brother “has hair down there.” Add the fact she’s already witnessed them comparing – which I told her was normal; guys compare their own cocks to others all their lives.

My niece calls her ex to tell him it’s time for “the talk” and he says, “The only talk I’m going to have with him is to throw him a box of condoms.” No, no, no; not good. The kid needs to know what’s happening. He’s already been asking her why it’s hard every morning and she’s at least had the sense to tell him that is normal. But she can’t seem to go any further than that because he gets uncomfortable. He doesn’t like his doctor examining him either – he was born with hypospadia (the urethral opening is not at the end of the head, but on the underside of the shaft), had surgery to correct it when he was 2-years old, and his doctor keeps an eye on things. Smart doctor.

(Oh, you don't really want to see a photo of that, do you? Well, okay...)

I told her it’s not fair to the kid to leave him in the dark. We prepare our daughters for their puberty, but we ignore our sons' need for information. He needs to be prepared for his first wet dream, learn to keep it clean, to use Vit E oil, learn to jack off, and quit wearing anything below the waist when he goes to bed. Surprisingly enough, when I mentioned this last thing, even my sister (who’s a nurse) never heard that the penis can crack (read the post Bent Wood if you don't know about this). So, the information will flow from me.

Since the two boys share a bedroom, the younger one will be learning some things early. Just as I did in sharing a room with my older brother. But, that’s the way of life. Though I have no sons of my own, it is now time for me to practice what I preach. If I am successful, they will both grow up without any sense of shame about their cocks getting rip-roaring stiff, or learning how to use and enjoy them (alone or together).


Anonymous said...

Like many other guys, I never had THE
TALK..... everything I learned, and most of it so wrong, was from other guys my age.

becca said...

i may be a girl but mom never had the talk with me either i got some stupid cartoon book that explained nothing really even now as an adult i'm still learning. may I plz send my son to you when it's time or i might be asking you way to many questions as it will fall to me to explain things to him dad's a great dad but not much of a talker.


All the best. I'm sure you will do a great job! Some great images again today. You can send the guy with the ringed tits over, please!

CoreyJo said...

I think it's a wonderful thing you're doing. I also think it says a lot about you as a person that your niece was comfortable coming to you with her problem. I also think it's horrible for a man to be so lacking in care for his sons. My husband and his brother were given a porn movie by their father instead of the talk. Seriously? Telling them nothing would be better than that. Like Becca, even though I'm a girl I was never given the talk. A short black and white video of pencil drawing showing us where we were going to grow hair and boobs in the fifth grade was all I had. I have two girls so no boners or wet dreams for me to deal with. However I do plan on making sure my girls are well educated on first the female body and then the male body. They already know that boys look different from girls. Anyways, I think you're the best chance those boys have at a normal sex life. I'm also sure your niece is eternally grateful for your help.

Again, you're a wonderful man, and the service you provide all of us is greatly appreciated.

Thank you for being the wonderful you.


whkattk said...

Thanks all!

Yeah, CoreyJo, my niece and I have always been able to talk to one another about anything! Open communication is the key and I want her boys to know they can come to me with any questions they have and there is no need for embarassement!

whkattk said...

@ becca - You may indeed send your son to me for information. Anytime! My email is listed on the side bar - I'll amswer any question he has in an age-appropriate manner. And, if you think he could handle it, you could print some of the more appropriate posts and leave them in his room for him to read.

becca said...

thank you i will when he ask me a question again instead of hitting google i'll be sure and ask hey I can totally learn something myself

Anonymous said...

i never really had the talk either. my brother and i bonded in our teen years and learned alot from eachother from masturbating together. as strange as it sounds, my sister learned about masturbation and ejaculation from us to. she was curious about it from health class and wanted us to show her. so we masturbated and ejaculated infront of her. years later i appoligized for doing that but she told me thanks because now she know how to talk to her boys about their bodys and masturbation.

whkattk said...

@ Anon - That is a very smart sister you have there! And her sons are very lucky to have a mom who knows and understands, and can explain things to them without judgement.