Most Guys Don't

It would appear this COVID-19 lockdown is exposing all sorts of new family dynamics, things we didn’t have issues with before.

“The campus is closed and I’m back home. Wouldn’t be so bad except my dad decided it’s okay to bust in on me. To be fair, before he barged into the bathroom, he did ask if I was jerking off. I wasn’t, I was just stepping out of the shower. He opened the door telling me that mom was in their bathroom and he really needed to take a leak. Look, it’s not like he never saw me naked or I never saw him piss, it was his observations. He actually looked right at my dick while I dried off and proceeded to give me a “blow-by-blow” as to why I should be shaving my dick and balls. I mean seriously when did it get to be okay to comment on your kids dick? And, should I really be shaving that?”

Manscaping of any kind is a personal preference. If you like it, do it. Or if you have a spouse or partner who would prefer it, it’s kind to acquiesce.

But, shaving the shaft is something you should be doing for the exact reasons your dad gave you. You want a partner giving you head to have to pause to pick pubic hair out of their mouth or teeth? No. So, get in the shower and lather up.

Then go thank your father for the tip.

And be thankful you have a dad who isn’t afraid to dispense advice like that – most guys don’t.

Grooming

A question about grooming hit my inbox only a few days after an article about pubic grooming. What more sign is needed than that?

"I was reading the other day about hair on the shaft of the dick and balls. Whereas hairy balls are something that we can relate to more easily (although generally we see clean ballsacks on pictures), it seems more uncommon (or is it?) to have hair on the shaft. Could you talk about that on a post?
In addition, I’d like to say something I was thinking about and I think it relates to this subject as well: when there are buddies naked together, we’ve learned to not be shameful about our bodies, ok, but in a way there might still be something that is socially imposed that makes us believe there’s something wrong with looking. I was thinking how healthy it would be if we weren’t scared of looking and pointing out “oh, you’ve got hair on the shaft” and that being alright. When I think of this scenario, first I think it would be as if the guy was judging the other for having the “wrong” genetics, but if it’s done without judgement and even curiosity, it must be a truly male bonding experience! - H"

When you hit the gym locker room you've probably noticed some of the dudes have manscaped. 

Approximately 50% of men admit to some degree of manscaping. To shave, to wax, to sugar (a form of waxing only with melted sugar), to pluck the pubic area is truly a personal choice. 

But...guys should at least be removing the hair from the shaft of the cock. Hair does grow along the shaft to varying degrees. It can be quite the irritant during penetrative activity.

My own grooming began many years ago. It's cooler. Less sweat means less itch. Less itch means less groping and scratching. I opted for laser hair removal from the shaft and scrotum. It was fast, pretty painless and, after 7 treatments, permanent. But, it can be pricey, though there are now home laser systems. There is no need to go "full Monty" on your pubes, either. You can remove the hair from cock and sac, trim the bush a bit and leave the rest of your body natural.

I use a beard trimmer (rather than scissors) with a length guide to keep the rest at about 5/8".

For a full explanation of different styles of manscaping the pubes and options for safely accomplish it, read the Healthline article "Manscaping Guide to Healthy, Well-Groomed Pubic Hair."

As far as guys being comfortable enough to talk to one another about genital issues, well, that's another post.