These types of emails from younger guys are enough to break your heart.
"I'm at my wits end. I wake up with wood, but I can't get my dick to stay hard long enough to jack off. I haven't been able to get a load off in months. I went to my primary who sent me to a specialist. He did more tests than I could imagine and even did a ultrsound of my dick from head to the very root and says theres nothing physical wrong. He referred me to a therapist but who can afford that shit? Esepcially without insurance? I'm only 28 for fuck sake. Can you or your readers please help me before I go crazy?"
If you aren't aware: Anxiety is a big, big boner killer.
If you want to succeed in maintaining a good solid hard-on, you have to shed the anxiety. Leave it behind. You get morning wood because you're completely relaxed, your mind is at ease. (Even men with ED get nocturnal erections, btw.)
Go into a room where you can close out the world. Put on some nice, soft, soothing music. The type of music a massage therapist would use. Strip off your clothes, kick back and stretch out.
And masturbate. Play and tease.
Focus your mind and thoughts on nothing but the sensations you create. Be aware of the response in your cock. If you get a boner but lose it, don't fret about it. The more you worry, the more frustrated you get, the more tough it's going to be to succeed in reaching your goal.
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You gave very good advice. You could be a sex therapist!
can he cum with a wank?
I think you're right.
And I think he's high strung, probably by nature. The pandemic is not helping.
Also, there's many community centers that are offering free online counseling. He needs to get to one of those STAT.
XOXO
Stress, anxiety, medicine and alcohol can contribute to ED. I know, personally.
Sildenafil.
Try anal stimulation specially prostate stimulation...
@ Rick - Maybe I missed my true calling!
@ Xersex - he said he tried without success.
@ Six - Huh... See? Now why didn't I think of that? XOXO
Is he having nocturnal emissions? That would show that everything's working, and it's an emotional/stress kind of problem.
If he's not, he must be backing up a load!
--PaulMmn
First focus on the good news, that everything appears to be in good working order.
Now just relax. Work on making your life simpler, exercise exercise exercise. At 28, buy a pair of inexpensive running shoes and get out every single day. Don't smoke, drink little.
hugs and bisous.
All good solid advice. Bravo.
Wel, for this buddy i can recomend take some vitamin D supplement, I was having the same thing with my dick (like months without jackoff or desire to jackoff). My dick dont stiff enough for a long period of time to really enjoy or cum. When i start to take Vitamin D (1000UI) every day for a couple of weeks, I observe my dick was stiff like a rock. I read in some studies the Vitamin D increase the Testosterone in the male body, so i thinks this can help you.
Anxiety is the worst in this cases, I´m anxious as shit and im only 31 years old. I feel what this guy is passing thru.
Cheers!
I think anal stimulation is a good thought. I get much better boners that way. He didn't say if he is straight or what but stripping away the "norms" and trying some different things might help. I would suggest trying some "fleshlight" or other sex toys might help as well.
Poor little guy! But I think that you've said all that needed to be said.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings chéris Jean and Pat.
Now you know that's on the ceiling. Wonder what the ceiling in that room looks like? Hmm.?
Take a look at what these guys are doing https://www.aneros.com/community/general-discussion/ multiple prostate orgasms and you aren't supposed to touch your penis, it's out of the equation.
It's also often recommended to simply focus on the sensations when caressing various parts of your body in exploring what feels good rather than trying to achieve orgasm. Could also add a vibrator to the mix and see what that feels like and experiment with different types of porn and fantasy. Perhaps the OP is not getting enough stimulation to trigger arousal.
Let's not miss the important fact that the reader presented...that he went to his primary doc and even a specialist to get this checked out medically. Too many men won't/don't do this! It's a great first step to know that nothing physically is preventing a sustained erection.
Writer, I do hope you find a solution. My own experience is that a similar situation resolved itself in time. I think for many of us, life gets in the way sometimes. Best to you!
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