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"whens the first time you saw a dick that wasn't yours or a family members or saw one hard that wasn't yours or a family members?"
Oh, gosh. Probably the first gym PE when we were forced to put on jock straps and take showers afterward. First boner? A buddy's when we started jerking off together.
But really, I would consider military basic training the real eye-opener. That's when I learned boners weren't all about sex. Waking up in the barracks with 39 guys rushing to the latrine wagging their morning wood to the open urinals and gang showers.
Then there were the weekend circle jerks.
Anyone else care to share?
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First dick is easy: It was a childhood friend at the urinals. I remember my dad later trying to explain that Jordan was circumcised and why we weren't. (It's very racial in South Dakota. White boys are almost always circumcised and Indian boys aren't.)
First boner was years later, same friend, jerking off.
Other than family members, the first cock outside the family was probably my neighborhood friends. By 12 I had already fooled around with two of them. Granted it was mostly jacking off and rubbing.
Junior High gym class showers. One of the other boys had wood.
I was... 9... my best buddy (same age) and I stole his older brothers Penthouse magazine and both got boners while looking through the pages. I think we did had a little "show and tell" going on, and before we knew it, we were really... enjoying it. I remember that was the first time I ever came. AND I KNEW I WANTED MORE!
First times were Cub Scout swimming lessons and recreation. And no total boners, but some chubbies. First true boners were in Boy Scouts at Scout Camp in the mornings and circle jerks on the Sunday afternoons when we were supposed to be reflecting on ''spiritual'' things. Later I was a swimmer, so I have seen thousands of naked guys many with ''no reason'' boners.
Small house, 1 bathroom, so when I was coming out of babyhood, I remember seeing my father naked. I though he was well equipped, so he might have been hard in the morning.
Probably Marine Corps Bootcamp 1975. Saw so many naked men! 60 plus in the bks headed to the shower room. First time I saw a naked black and hispanic men naked and they were hung let me tell ya! Never have forgotten that!
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As a kid, I caught a few (surpisingly few) glimpses of my father in the shower (I was an only child -- no other kids in the house to ogle ;-> ). I was both a physical late bloomer -- in 8th grade, I and **one** other kid didn't yet have pubic hair. I didn't discover the details of the anatomical differences between male and female human beings until shockingly late in the game, and the mechanics of the "birds and the bees" I had to figure out entirely on my own. Sex was an utterly taboo subject with my parents and extended family, and I was clued in from an extremely early age that bodily anatomy was something to be ashamed of.
My mother caught me "playing with myself" one afternoon when I was 4, made a big fuss about it (including "wait till I tell your father when he gets home!"). I lived in dread for hours (maybe days) for the other shoe to drop, but neither my father nor my mother ever revisited the subject (I can just imagine the eye-rolling response of my father to my mother's "revelation", but neither of them was psychologically sophisticated enough to let me off the psychic hook. Idiots! OK -- it was the times, the class background, the intellectual and educational limits, the religious milieu, etc., etc.)
PE showering started in 7th grade (in "junior high" -- a different physical plant, miles away from the 1st-6th-grade elementary school where I started) , and I have a distinct memory of being teased on the playground in 6th grade by other boys "bragging" to me that next year they were going to get to see mine. This was certainly not sexual teasing -- it was hostile quasi-bullying, and frankly I was **terrifed** at the thought of having to be naked in front of other guys. In the event, I survived it. Showering with other guys was not in any was sexually exciting at that age -- it was something to be gotten done with as quickly as possible, with a minimum of looking around -- and I suspect it was the same for most or all of the other guys. (I do remember being a little shocked seeing an uncircumsised one for the first time -- I thought something must be terribly wrong with the poor guy. He was the only one, too -- I hope his parents prepared **him** for his uniqueness so he wasn't traumatized by it.)
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I had a very brief stint in the boy scouts, and caught a glimpse once of a grown man who wasn't my father using an outdoor shower at a scout camp. The sight held no erotic interest for me (at that age, I thought adult male dicks were kind of gross).
By the time I was in high school (and had discovered the joys of masturbation) jockstraps and tightie whities and speedos had become sexualized visual stimuli for me. No boners, though -- I never popped one in public, and I never saw anybody else do it either (though I remember the high-school gym teacher once making a joke about "private facilities" being made available for anybody with that "problem").
I was never in the military (had a high-enough lottery number to escape getting drafted to Vietnam following the period of student deferment). I can't imagine the freedom you describe -- jerking off with friends, circle-jerks, etc. Never in my wildest dreams!
In the early 70s, when I was just starting college, at the local newsstand, I came across (no pun intended) a paperback that was an **illustrated** sex-ed book. Nothing nearly as tame as _The Joy of Sex_ (with its pastel watercolors) or that smarmy, joky David Reuben _Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Sex (But Were Afraid To Ask)_. This book -- a standard-sized paperback, not a coffee-table volume like _Joy_ -- had **photos**!
Yeah, it absolutely must've been this one:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15994161-the-sex-book-a-modern-pictorial-encyclopedia
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The Sex Book; A Modern Pictorial Encyclopedia
by Martin Goldstein, Erwin J. Haeberle, Will McBride
Mass Market Paperback, 207 pages
Published May 1973 by Bantam Books (first published January 1st 1971)
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And one of the photos, in a paragraph about male masturbation, was of the torso of a young guy grasping a massive erection. That was absolutely the first erection on another guy I'd ever seen, either in the flesh (so to speak) or as an image (mass-market porn magazines of the times -- such as they were, like _Playgirl_ -- did **not** do erections). I was a little shocked at how big it was!
So I absolutely had to have the book. And there was no disguising the contents. At least it was (ostensibly) for a heterosexual audience (except for that one eye-popping photo, which was there just for me, and which I was sure was beaming directly into the mind of the cashier from the inside of the book ;-> ). So I carried the book to the register, and my face was undoubtedly glowing bright red, and it was an old cigar-chomping guy, and he took full advantage of the situation -- leered at me, and made some insulting remark about the birds and the bees, or some such thing.
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I guess I was probably 12 or 13.
He was an older boy, probably 15 or 16 and that looked 'grown up' to me. Can you imagine? It was super thrilling.
I never saw a family member naked...
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When I was in middle school in Wichita, Kansas . . . once a week during gym class we had to swim nude! It was especially difficult for me because I was realizing I was gay and attracted to boys! This was in the 60's . . . I doubt they do that today!
First time I saw another guy's boner (sort of) was when i was about 14. It was at a friend's sleep over. His (much) older brother came home and it was clear he'd been drinking. He was joking with us and mucking around and stripped down to just his y-fronts and he was clearly oblivious to his erection and his y-fronts were tented big time in view of the whole group! I didn't actually get to see what was inside the y-fronts, but It was the first time I was confronted by the possible sighting of another man's hard on. i was in awe of the size of the tent in his pants! 40 years later i still remember that night!
When I went through navy bootcamp, in Great Lakes, IL.
My first sighting of a non-family member's dick was a playmate & fellow Boy Scout (in fact, the troop scoutmaster's son!) who introduced me to masturbation (we were both 12). He'd just recently learned what his sizable shlong could do by messing around with a cousin of the same age -- also in the Scouts -- and wow was he eager to share the joyful info about the best hobby most guys ever adopt and pursue! He sure was a lot of fun on campouts, especially in the tents after lights out! As you can guess, he wasn't at all shy and often would give his tentmates a show by turning on his flashlight.
I met a guy at the YMCA and we found an isolated place and he blew me and I jerked him off. I was in college at the time.
First one was family as I was 8 when my older brother of 14 introduced me to masturbation. Outside family I guess it was my first lover when I was about 17. He was 21, horny as hell, and also was my first experience at sodomy. Which hurt a lot despite a lot of soap during shower, loL!
By the age of 19 I remember I could still keep count of the amount of lovers I had had. Further on it became impossible to keep track. Oops...
Gym class, around grade 7.....there was this one guy who hit puberty way ahead of most of the class. He was gorgeous and had hair everywhere. I still remember the first day, I saw his cock, and what I found most fascinating was that he was cut (I am not) and the thick bush of pubic hair.
First time I remember seeing adult dicks, that were not family, I was 8 or 9. We lived in Marietta GA. Weekends were spent rafting on the Chattahoochee River. Many people did it nude during that time. I saw many up close and for hours at a time.
First hard one I saw I was nine, and it was my best friends. He was 13. We were playing a variation of cops and robbers. I was the cop. I caught him, put him in a cell, and confiscated his clothes and tied him up. He got hard. So I took it in my hands. The end.
In the UK. Saw? age 9 or 10 when our whole class had swimming lessons at the local swimming baths and changed into and out of our swimmers in a communal changing room. Hard? age early-30s when i participated in a 'Body Electric' workshop for the first time.
Correction: it was County Rec, not Cub Scouts. And the swim team was AAU.
My Dad was a PE teacher, and I used to go with him to the football stadiums to watch the games. I was probably 7 years old, and back then the urinals were like troughs, so you could see every dick. Later, in the football locker room where my father worked sporting a boners happend with the players, I was 10!
Men's room, eh? I hated those open troughs. Still do.
I think that counts, Mads. LOL
I don't remember any of the guys in the showers after gym getting hard. Only a little chubbed.
Once we experience that, the battle never ends.
Swimming naked at the Y was an eye-opener for me. My dad wouldn't go because of that, so I went alone one time. Whoa....
We used to swim naked at scout camp, too, and saw a couple of full-on boners. The guys in the main cabin said they'd jerk off at night. I was not one of the lucky ones.
Maybe a pretty good semi.
60??? Holy crap. There was 40 of us in boot camp and I thought that was a lot.
It was all a taboo subject in our house, too. No real boners in the showers after gym, either, but if I remember right no uncut guys, either.
I never did get to read any of those books. Sex and anatomy were taboo subjects in our house. The first book I ever got was Sex: A Man's Guide. Learned an awful lot that I never knew.
My brother and I hung out a lot -- the buddies were closer to his age than mine - 3 years older than me.
Yep, no more swimming naked. Heck, these days, they aren't even required to shower after a gym class. Rathe gross, IMO, but parents are SO afraid their sons will suffer some kind of life-altering trauma from other boys seeing their dicks. Pretty sad.
It's interesting the things that stay with us...but that first boner we see (in pants or otherwise) is one of them.
It's pretty common these days that men don't see other men naked until later.
Ah, scouting....we swam naked at camp. No boners but plenty of chubs. The guy in the main cabin said they used to jerk off at night.
The Y seems to be a pretty common place for that. Well, way back when it really was the yMca and we all had to swim naked.
Nothing wrong with that. Variety is the spice and all that, right?
That's usually quite interesting, but a shock to see a guy who's dick it that different from our own.
The whole nude river swimming doesn't happen much anymore??? That's a shame.
The Body Electric workshops are fantastic. Such a wonderful experience of self-discovery and learning.
Lordy, I hated those trough urinals. Still do. The McDonalds in Bakersfield has them. Ugh. The athletes getting boners in the locker room and showers are no surprise. Or shouldn't be. 'Course, at 10 they would be pretty fascinating.
Not family? About age 9, visiting a Negro neighbor about that age, we both had to use the bathroom at the same time for urination and share the toilet bowl. We crossed streams. I do remember that his penis was dark brown, and just as small as mine.
Other erection? Age 13 at Boy Scout Summer Camp. The weather was nice, so the sides of all of our 2 boy tents were rolled up. One evening, another scout in the next tent laying on his back on his cot shone a flashlight beam on his erection.
About age 6, outdoors in the evening, an older boy, seeing that I was fascinated with fire used to light cigarettes, offered to give e a lighter if I would suck part of him. I can't remember his exact words or if he opened his fly to show me, but my attention was directed to his crotch. I couldn't put the reason for my refusal into words, but I didn't trust him and was scared about getting urine in my mouth. I was grown up and had been sucked by a few men before I met a guy that I trusted enough to return the favor.
Many times before age 13, I was in swimming pool changing rooms and can remember seeing white briefs and even athletic supporters coming off and on, but have no memory of what I saw behind them.
Even into my mid twenties, I had never seen a foreskin, or knowingly seen a naked Jewish or Moslem male. When I 1st went camping with a Jewish man, I thought that I'd finally see what a circumcised person looked like. But when we got undressed that night, his penis looked just the same as mine and every other one I'd ever seen!
In the change rooms at the pool where we had swimming classes, when i was a kid. I learned 2 things. 1: Being uncut in that era was very much the minority. 2: I found out mine was smaller than most of my classmates of same age, and didn't they like to point that out!
and a little while later i learned a 3rd thing. That Italian boys hit puberty a lot earlier than the rest of us it seems. Barely a teenage yet he had a full thick bush and big dangly cock and probably still had a few years growing still to do. Probably the first "mature" cock i'd laid eyes on. It was impressive.
LOL. Love that he wasn't ashamed of it.
Glad you refused that guy. I hope he was caught and arrested and put in jail.
Now, that's pretty unusual for a Jewish man to be uncut.
Oh, at that age, we sure are full of pointing and laughing at the guys' cocks that are smaller than ours.
Yep, those Latin guys do seem to bloom early!
Yes, though there are differences in size when it comes to ancestry, I dare say the legend is myth. The truth is they vary in size, too.
June 16, 2026 at 7:24 AM whkattk said...
> Glad you refused that guy. I hope he was caught and arrested and put in jail. <
At about age 6, I was too young and shy to put into words what had happened. The guy was probably early teens, definitely not a grown man.
June 16, 2026 at 7:26 AM whkattk said...
> Now, that's pretty unusual for a Jewish man to be uncut. <
Since I am not Jewish, I though I was uncircumcised. Every penis I'd seen into my mid 20s (including mine) had an exposed head. Somehow, I thought that circumcision involved cutting something off a penis, probably its head or part of it. But this circumcised Jewish man's penis had an entire and uncovered head just like mine!
I was 9 and a new friend at school's parents coached swimming at a local pool. Both had full time jobs and coaching was i guess a form of community service and a love of the sport that they wished to share. They started taking me along to learn how to swim and in the change room before and after our lessons I saw all kinds of differently aged guys showing cock.
He still should not have been doing that with a 6-year old. If he continued that behavior, I hope he was eventually arrested and jailed.
Ah... I misread your original comment about the Jewish guy.
Nice of them to teach you to swim. I hope it also taught you that you need not be ashamed of your cock.
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