Danger Wank

 

"It wouldn't bother me at all to have neighbors looking down on me while I'm naked and jerking off. Hell, I'd give them a real show. Parks, on the street driving, mens rooms, sometimes the more chance of someone seeing me the better."

Your message brings to mind the Urban Word of the Day, "Danger Wank." Essentially, it is deliberately masturbating in a place and at a time with the best chance of being "caught."

While that's not my thing, it won't bother me to have any neighbor seeing me naked.  I have no reason to be ashamed. Yes, even if I were to get a hard-on. So what? I have a cock and that's what cocks do, right?

In fact, the yard guy has already come upon me floating in the pool sporting a boner. Didn't bother me. Didn't appear to bother him. He stood and we chatted for a few minutes and then he went on about his work.

"A reasonable expectation of privacy" means that even if they can see over the fence I have the right to do as I see fit. I think even a judge would say to them, "If you don't like it, don't look. Or put up window coverings."

For me, the issue is not needing to crane my head upwards just to see blue sky.

Bravo! Dad

This is a scheduled post because I am at a conference.

From the Mail Bag:

"My father was quite open with me about sex and masturbation as I approached puberty. I decided way back then that I would do the same if I ever had a son. Now that I do and he has hit that point, searching for places we might use to kick off conversations brought up your blog.
I commend you on such thorough research on the wide variety of topics that will help him better understand his maturing body.  You present things in a forthright but respectful manner and your blog has been bookmarked for his easy access.
Thank you for what you do here."

I received that mid-April but decided to save it for Masturbation Month because, if he's like any other guy at this age, he'll be obsessed with his cock and jacking off. It's important that he learn and understand how natural, normal, and healthy it is.

That a father would do this for his son is wonderful beyond words. I wish my own father had been so forthcoming in my youth. But, I doubt he had any knowledge of his own body, so how could he share information with me?

Anyway, Bravo! Dad. There may be people who think you're horrible and immoral for it, but the older your son gets the more appreciative he'll be for having a father who helped him with all this "guy stuff."

Masturbation Month is the perfect opportunity to teach him to take his time, enjoy it, revel in the pleasure of his entire erotic self.

Further Acceptance

One of the reasons that public nudity is frowned upon is the fear that a man might sprout wood, and that may lead to sexual activity.

It's possible, of course. But, erections are a natural, normal male body function. It should be to no one's surprise that we guys don't have to be naked to get a hard-on.

It's also natural and normal for a man to then find a way to push the erection into a more comfortable position, which, yes, might lead to him stroking one out to relieve it.

A guy taking his boner in hand is becoming more acceptable in the mainstream. I look at the popularity of Call Me By Your Name and the masturbation scenes and hope springs eternal that a guy jacking off no longer shocks anyone.

Which is the whole point of Masturbation Month:

Further acceptance of the activity.

A Very Pleasant Companion

Whatever our gender we all masturbate. It's no secret. There's no reason to deny it, or hide the fact from others. So what makes this yearly celebration of it different?

Masturbation Month was introduced to honor Dr. Joycelyn Elders, who was fired from her position in the Bill Clinton administration for suggesting - in a private conversation - after a University speech that "masturbation should, perhaps, be taught."

The reasons we jack off, or whatever term you wish to use, are plentiful. But, as blogger buddy AOM suggests over at his new blog Morning Dew, this month we should make it something special when we take ourselves in hand.

Celebrate yourself.

 Honor yourself. 

 Love yourself.

The better lover you are to your own body, 

the better lover you can be to another.