My Absence

I know my Faithful readers have probably wondered what happened. I have been on the watch with my mother as she faced her final transition. She did so Friday evening. It was a rough ride for her and I know she's much happier.

The business of death continues, though, and I doubt I'll be back home for at least another few weeks. The internet link here is sporadic - and very slow, so I can't make any promises of posting.

In the meantime, may everyone have a wonderful Christmas!

Get Busy

You thought because I took yesterday off you wouldn't have to deal with the monthly reminder?

Not a chance!

BUDDY BALL CHECK

Now, whether you do it yourself or have someone do it for you, get busy and get those balls checked.

Done? Good. Now go remind other guys to do the same! Or offer to do it for them.

The monthly ball check is important for all men, but especially between the ages of 15-35.

Enjoy the remainder of your weekend.

Is It Fair?

"Me and my buddy have been jerking off together since we hit puberty. We like getting together on a regular basis a few times a month. My wife doesn't mind at all. His wife isn't happy about it. What makes this worse is his wife is my younger sister. So now he's not just my buddy he's my brother-in-law. Its not like its been a big secret to her. One time when our folks went on a weekend trip and my buddy and me spent pretty much the whole time stroking our dicks and my sister knew about it. Now that she married him she's making things difficult. I don't think its fair of her. Do you have any ideas on how we can convince her to let us keep stroking together? Me and my brother-in-law think its harmless fun."

If your sister was aware of the activity then and now, what reasons does she give for her reticence? Your buddy/brother-in-law is going to stroke his cock regardless of his marital status. Does she know that? 

Mutual masturbation, or Buddy Bate as it's being called now, is getting to be an out-in-the-open common thing for men - regardless of sexual orientation and regardless of relationship status. It's a guy activity; some men are only in it for a sexual release, some are in it to form true non-romantic friendships.

I wonder if she would benefit from reading this blog post on the subject of guys jacking off together: BatorBlog.

Readers?

Any words of wisdom to help the situation?

ED Use v Adornment

Cock only on the Left; Whole package on the Right

A few comments on the wearing of cock rings leads me to revisit the issue. There are two types: One which was initially designed to work with Vacuum Pumps for men with Erectile Dysfunction (ED). This type encircles the base of the cock - it is tight and blocks the blood from leaving the Corpus Cavernosae. It is dangerous to leave this type in place for longer than 30 minutes. (I'll spare you the gruesome photos.) As Faithful reader Jean indicated in her comment:

"...The biggest risk associated with using a penis ring is causing permanent damage to the penis – when wearing a penis ring you should remove it if you feel:

Pain
Swelling
Numbness
Pins and needles
You shouldn’t wear a penis ring for longer than 30 minutes at a time – you should also make sure the ring is well fitted but if at any time it becomes difficult to remove you should go straight to A and E to seek medical attention.

If it takes a long time to remove the penis ring, then you are at risk of gangrene. A condition where the blood supply is cut off and the tissue which makes up the penis are starved of oxygen and dies off. ..."

The second type encircles the whole package (cock and balls). This type will assist in hardness, but it allows for the exchange of Oxygenated blood to the tissues of the cock. This is the type that men use as adornment, as well as lifting everything forward.

However, as Jean pointed out, it needs to be properly sized and if you can't seem to remove it and begin to experience any of the symptoms mentioned in her comment, head to an ER immediately. 

On another note, but related to ED, a friend is going in for prostate removal. Initial indications earlier in the year suggested "watchful waiting." The latest Digital Rectal Exam (DRE) and Prostate Specific Antigen (PSA) both indicated the tumor had grown significantly.

Upon the point of surgical decision, he successfully argued with his wife that they should have as much sex as possible because "after the surgery, my dick will never get hard again."

Guys, if you face this crossroads, do your utmost to ensure you have a Urological Surgeon who has successfully done prostatectomy without damage to the central nerve bundle. If your surgeon knows what he's doing, the chances for a complete recover (read: ability to get erections) are very good.

Plus, apparently, the Gainswave Sonic Wave technology, the latest in ED treatment, is FDA approved and really works to restore the ability to get boners. (Read a firsthand report by Ben Greenfield at Men's Health.) This is something I may look into myself. My question for them is whether it can succeed in overriding the Muscular Dystrophy.

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I'm taking tomorrow off, but I have scheduled a post. Another Reader faces a conundrum.

Cock Jewelry

"My wife noticed me slipping on a cock ring before getting dressed. Now she's accusing me of fucking around on her. I tried to tell her it's because I freeball and it gives my junk a forward lift keeping it out from between my legs. I'll admit I enjoy the looks I get from the bulge and some of the looks and comments at the gym. What can I do to convince her the cock ring isn't for holding a boner?"

First and foremost: Please don't refer to your genitals as 'junk.' Junk is something we no longer want. Junk is something we discard. Your cock and balls should be something you cherish. If you don't cherish yours, we need to have a talk.

That said, I assume the type of cock ring you use encircles the entire package. Your reasoning makes sense to me. A wide-band ring will lift everything and push it forward at the same time, so it serves a purpose other than helping maintain a hard-on.

There are all kinds of jewelry items men wear on their cocks; Prince Alberts, shaft and scrotal bar and ring piercings, a variety of cock rings are designed just for adornment. And guys get and wear these things because they like the way they look.

How do you convince her the cock ring isn't for assisting with rigidity? Not sure I have an answer for that. Do you use one during sex?

If so, that could be a signal to her that you're getting laid somewhere besides at home with her.

Any suggestions for him Readers?

Guys, do you have and wear any cock jewelry?