Wednesday, June 27, 2018

Handjob Famine

Yesterday's post posits a great segway. What happened to handjobs? Why, as we get older and transition into "real" sex, does mutual masturbation take a back seat?
The MEL magazine article The Lost Art of the Handjob quotes Ashley Manta, who teaches private workshops in Beverly Hills, CA, and claims porn is to blame for current handjob famine by saying “You rarely see a handjob by itself in porn, and since there isn’t any sort of comprehensive sex education in the U.S., people don’t know what to do.”
Um, somebody isn't aware of the multitude of guys who masturbate on cam, or the massage videos with the proverbial "happy endings."

Manta claims she likes to give one for "at least 10 to 15 minutes, but I've also given one for 90 minutes." One? Only one?? Oh, go home lady! Seriously? She says many guys tell her they don't believe anyone can do them like they can do themselves. Except...men can give awesome handjobs. And, it's strictly because they know what feels good.


We do seem to put a good handjob on the back burner as we age. I know guys have trained themselves in their youth to hurry lest they be caught in the act. 


But we're in an age when men are beginning to admit they enjoy jacking off.


And more and more admitting that they enjoy jacking off together.

That provides us the opportunity to make it last and last and last.
Is there a handjob famine?

11 comments:

SickoRicko said...

I enjoy hand jobs very much!

Xersex said...

i prefer blowjob and being blowjobbed, to tell you the truth!

Patrick said...

Great as ever!!! Don't drive! Never have - result of early onset of clinical depression! First severe attack as 23! Wet and cold here! Enjoy your summer!

mistress maddie said...

I actually prefer a good hand job over sex sometimes. There is one guy I see from time to time, who loves giving handjobs. We knew each other for some time, and he'd been asking to give me one, so I gave in. HE IS EXCELLENT! He never wants anything in return, even though I offer. He has never got me to cum doing it, but close. I usually take over from him then as he enjoys watching me stroke. But he gives a good 45 minute hand job..and balls included.

French Patrick said...

Where has Ashley Manta discovered that we rarely see a handjob by itself in porn? What does she know about all the movies and all the videos that he has never viewed? If she was right, I wonder how you would have been able to gather all these photos, not to mention all the others you have in stock.
When I was a teenager there was no sex education, comprehensive or not, and no film or video pornographic, there was only porn books and photos rather expensive and very hard to find, but, incredible (for Ashley) but thrue, I have never been victim of any sexual "famine".
Love, hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.

AOM SoulFood said...

Not sure about a famine or not but it certainly is a great way to enjoy pleasure together. I like how you can really watch your partner enjoy what you are doing. I find it intensely intimate. Thanks for all you bring us, bro. Wishing you a super day! Hugs, Licks, and Strokes, AOM

T said...

I not sure what the person was trying to achieve. Did they want to put a label on something that is pretty much ignorance/lack of knowledge?

Any form of masturbation has that negative stigma attached to it. Does not matter if its solo, someone else doing it or if Santa and the Easter Bunny take turns on it. Its seen as the lesser act and not the real thing. Social attitude towards it drives that message further in.

This is something that is more social driven than anything else. If society didnt put such a high value on intercourse and treat other sexual intimacy as equal/different instead of being inferior to intercourse this wouldnt be a discussion.

Expectation of intercourse or expectation that someone must give you pleasure but blasphemy if its by yourself?

taotrojan said...

Hey bro. Yes very true. A good hand job is very beneficial as to free one of self masturbation which is good of course but another doing it for you lets you delve deeper in yourself. Having a tantra massage is wonderful to receive especially when your cock is wel oiled up with coconut oil. Fantastic. Love you bro for the great posts.

Jean WM said...

Use it or lose it. Hand jobs will never be a lost art and a good skill to mentor a partner. Hugs and bisous.

that one guy said...

I frequently refer to what I call "The Handjob That Changed My Life."

Amazingly, I never heard of using lube to jack off until I was a sophomore in college. The only techniques I knew were the "death grip" and the "gym sock." By that point in my life, I'd given and gotten my share of blow jobs, but never a "real" hand job.

Anyway, one day I was at the Y, cruising the sauna as I was wont to do, and struck up a conversation (plus a bit more) with a guy I recognized --- he'd graduated a few years before and had a musical instrument supply business that a lot of students at school frequented. Anyway, one thing led to another and he came to my dorm room that evening. He brought a jar of Vaseline and gave me a slow, luxurious, one-hour-long hand job. I couldn't believe how amazing it felt. Jacking off had always been about the end result for me --- shoot your load as hard and fast as you can. It had never really occurred to me to enjoy the process. That all changed that night. I went out and bought myself a jar of Vaseline the next day, and I've never gone back. (I mean, I don't use Vaseline any more, but I've never gone back to jacking dry.)

Every time I post this story anywhere, just in case he sees it someday, I always make sure to say: Thanks, Chris P!

Anonymous said...

Actually makes up a large part of my sexual experiences with other dudes. Jerking off together, sword fighting, swapping hand jobs, rubbing between the other guy's thighs.

Porn has something to do with it being seen as "immature", as does neo-Freudian psychology (See also the entire "clitoral orgasms are immature" myth.)

For me, it's simple: My penis is too big to top, my butt clenched too tightly when aroused to bottom, and anal never aroused me in the first place.