Thursday, July 2, 2020

Anhedonia

Imagine having an erection and not deriving any real pleasure from it.

Imagine having an ejaculation and not experiencing the orgasm.

"I suffer from generalised Anhedonia, which means I don't experience joy in life: either I am emotionally neutral or unhappy depending on circumstance, there is no spike of happiness. I don't even get high with opiates, just experience analgesia and a kind of drifting dreamy peaceful feeling. Sexually this is experienced as ejaculation with no orgasm. The ejaculation is equivalent feeling to a sneeze where there is a buildup of muscle tension and then a release but like a sneeze, no mind-blowing enjoyable sensations just a feeling of relief of that tension....over time and witnessing the sexual reactions of other men n particular, it is kind of obvious they are experiencing something much more intense than I do.

Sex has therefore never been particularly worthwhile for me as the lack of enjoyable ending usually doesn't warrant the effort. However, I do get aroused and excited but that is really as far as the good feelings go, with ejaculation just like a sneeze. The other part is that sexual stimulation is often uncomfortable and sometimes even perceived as painful, until it is like a switch is thrown and it suddenly changes to good feelings and ejaculation quickly ensues. It's like my body wants to get the borderline unpleasant experience out of the way as quickly as possible. [bold is mine]


Obviously orgasm occurs in the mind and can be fooled by virtual stimulation. To this end I have experimented with this mental technique and recently experienced sensations that I would describe as the most pleasurable I have ever felt, but I still could not cross that threshold into orgasm."








Any readers out there have any experience with this?
Any ideas for him?

14 comments:

Mistress Maddie said...

I have never even heard of this, so I'm at a lost for words.

SickoRicko said...

That's a new one one me. I got nuthin, sorry.

Great pictures, though!

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

Whoa.
I have never, ever heard of anhedonia. It seems pretty complex. I have no idea what to tell your reader. I imagine that he's been diagnosed, so he may have access to a counselor? I don't even know.

XOXO

JeanWM said...

I think this one is for the experts. His doctor needs to rule out if there's anything physically wrong with him and then refer him to someone who specializes in this. Hugs and Bisous.

Fullmoonma said...

His experience of orgasm sounds a little like the multiple dry orgasms I experience. He might find the cumulative effect energizing if he could master the technique and avoid ejaculation.. Kind of a long shot, but... Best instruction I've found is http://www.eroticengineering.com/9goldenkeys-full.

uptonking said...

How sad. You would think our pharmaceutical miracle workers would already have a cure for this. Very sad.

whkattk said...

@ Jean - You made me think that maybe a Masturbation Coach could help.

whkattk said...

@ Six - Yeah, I hope so. A sex therapist or masturbation coach. xoxo

Bretty said...

This is a complex situation. My background in counselling etc makes me familiar with anhedonia, but, it is usually a symptom (one of the core symptoms) of major depressive disorder an£ some other mental health issues such as anxiety. I’ve never come across it as a stand-alone problem.

Anhedonia in the context of depression causes the lack of interest and pleasure, which also affects socialising and is also known to affect sexual function and can, for some, trigger the lack of sexual pleasure as described.

Social and sexual anhedonia can sometimes be isolated issues, i.e. not linked with depression or mental health issues, but they usually are.
The lack of sexual pleasure - sexual anhedonia, sometimes referred to as ejaculatory anhedonia (which is new to me as an stand-alone issue) can also be caused by or indicative of other problems such as hypoactive sexual desire disorder or low levels of testosterone, amongst others.

If the OP is looking/asking for help he needs a full physical to check for any other problems and also to have a full evaluation of his psychological state. Like depression, this can be difficult to treat, but with the right support from medical and mental health professionals who know their stuff, he could make some progress.

I hope that helps.
Stay safe everyone, Bretty

André said...

Why not consult a shaman or a medium who could see if the problem comes from an ancestor or a previous life. In that case, they could unbind and liberate their consultant.

I am 84 years old and an apprentice of neo-shamanism, I have been able to liberate myself from a murder I had been the victim of in a previous life. I know... it is hard to believe. But when in pain, try the impossible.

Tex said...

I've never heard of anhedonia so I have nothing to offer the writer. But letters like this are exactly why I check this Blog a few times a week. I've learned so much from you, writers and commenters. Thank you all and all the best to the writer.

Bruce Jensen said...

Thank the Almighty that Bretty responded. The right diagnosis will get this reader (and possibly others) on the way to a healthy and happy life.

Hot guys said...

I think, even though IDK anything about the situation, finding the right person couldn't hurt! 😏🤷‍♂️ So, it could click and fit in very well if he meets the one. 💛💚

Jeffrey Hamilton said...

My recommendation: Body Electric without a doubt. If its a great facilitator and a good group of guys, it could work miracles for the gentleman