If you're like me, spontaneity is the absolute best when it comes to cumming. Whether it was with my wife or masturbating, giving in to the sudden boner has always been better than scheduling a specific time.
To give us a few pointers on how to maintain our health, mental and physical, Adrienne Santos-Longhurst, freelance writer for Healthline, suggests "19 Ways to Schedule 'Spontaneous' Sex - and Why You Should."
"Think of sex like an oil change for your car… except way hotter and a lot more exciting.
Keeping up with regular maintenance — and lube — helps keep your engine running at its best. The same idea applies to sex and all it can do for your mental and physical well-being as well as your relationship, if you’re in one.
Scheduling sex sounds like it’s all business, but when it comes to the business of pleasure, thinking ahead is the way to get more of the good stuff.
We’re talking more sex, potentially more orgasms, and all the added benefits that come from those things, like reduced stress, elevated mood, stronger relationships, and better sleep."
She's not just addressing actual, full-on, penetrative sex, either. She's talking about forms of intimacy. She says, "Basically, if it arouses you, it counts." That includes your me time solo sessions.
"Even those sweaty solo jobs you can’t wait to squeeze in after your roommate/parents/kids go to bed are pretty much planned in advance.
Did thinking ahead to a time to get down and dirty make the sex any less enjoyable? Of course not! That’s because scheduled sex is the same as normal sex — pleasurable, satisfying, and fun!"
watch porn?
hit my favorite fantasy?
Playing and teasing ahead of time can be fun, too. Teasing yourself with a bit of groping, 
or a few strokes after you take a leak
can all add up to the healthy, explosive results you want.
Do you ever plan your sex?
9 comments:
Terrific images to accompany a great post! Very good!
I must be ahead of the curve then. I almost always jack off twice a day, sometimes three times...and I next to never , ever plan sex or jacking off. The only time I plan on sex is if I "ordered in" so to speak with a hook up.
Have I mentioned I can't wait to see the Lad?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Or any other cock?
No. More like... I plan not to have sex. There's something in my head that tells me to 'save it'. Which is nonsense. But I still do, especially if I do, indeed, have something planned. It's a 50/50 situation though. You wait to long... easy trigger. OR it can be incredible and mind blowing and worth the wait. Well... it's always something :)
I haven't planned it for ages. And for its part, my sex plans it even less.
I found this quote from Robin Williams “At one point we realize that God gave us a brain and a penis, and not enough blood to make them work at the same time."
Reading this, I thought that this widely justifies the existence of your blog.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
I plan in this way, as one who lives alone and has avoided partner sex during the Covid crisis: I find arousal through porn, online chat, reading erotic stories, or self-stimulation. I keep it going for up to two days and enjoy the build-up and finally a great orgasm. Twice a week for this routine is usually enough for me, so I can pretty much count on and schedule my me-time. But spontaneity is great too. Sometimes I need to break the routine.
I like planning but sometimes it gives me anxiety. Also, I don't want my partner to feel like he HAS to perform. It's a conundrum. Planning allows me to feel confident, but I sometimes crave he just taking me against a wall....
XOXO
Sometimes our partner's enthusiasm can help a lot. It can be like having someone push you out at 7 a.m. jogging in the winter, when it's still dark and cold.
It may be the last thing you want to do, but when you are done you are really happy for the push. And sometimes you need to be the pusher. Hugs and bisous.
as I have often written I wank when I can't sleep. So it happens at least once per week. Otherwise, I cum when I have sex with another man.
@ Jean - We had a couple we hung out with who admitted that was the case for them...needing the push and then saying afterwards, "Yep, that was a good idea!" Hugs and bisous.
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