"Since we seem to be on the topic of fathers and sons here's one for you and your readers. It's well known that the males in this family skinny dip in the backyard pool during summer months. One of our sons said his friends asked if they can come swim naked with us when the pool opens. I say as long as their parents say okay I'm fine with it. My wife says she's not crazy about the idea but she'll go along with your decision."
I'm going to easily side with you. I don't see any problem with it. If everyone involved is comfortable, what's the harm? What's Mom's objection?
If your son and his friends were to go into the locker room at a local gym they'd see nude guys. What difference is there? Nudity is nudity.
If it's boners Mom is worried about.... Well, we used to swim naked at the Y. And every Summer in the creek at Scout Camp all the time. Boys and men of all ages, shapes and sizes. Did boners happen once in a while? Of course they did. No one was offended. Heck, no one even mentioned them.
If their parents give permission,
and you give permission,
I say, let it happen.
Any objections, Readers?
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Nope. Let it happen.
"she'll go along with your decision." Apparently his wife is a fan of yours! Usually you are asked for information or an opinion while she submits to your decision in advance.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings chéris Jean and Pat.
@ MFP - I'm as shocked as anyone! 😲 Hugs and bisous.
Obviously, to some people, nudity = sex.
Mom here has nothing to worry about. Your son & his "friends" aren't going to have sex in the pool. If sex between the boys is gonna happen (or if it already has) it ain't gonna happen in a public place with Dad present!
It's sure that IF those kids are minors, having a written OK letter would be what I would ask for.
So many bad things can happen even if you and your son are ok in going skinny dipping that is a family habit.
But including his friends could be not easy afterward.
IF one of those parents sees it as a «pedophile» stuff or even a friend friend's parent who has the knowledge of it and did alert the police etc...
To me it would be to really think twice before allowing any other young minor guys to join me and my son.
Let's it happen!
@ JiEL - Good suggestion. Maybe he should contact the parents himself.
It could be a problem waiting to happen.
I agree with JiEL. Even if it's only minors (I imagine the son is around 18??). There's always the possibility that a parent would freak out and the fuzz would be at this guy's door in a second.
XOXO
You never know the unintended consequences of a seemingly innocent event. I took my son to the Y swimming class as a kid with nude swimming, and thought nothing of it. But that was a class, inside, in a club building, with only males.
Neighborhood, backyard pool, mixed ages, nosy neighbors and it gets much more difficult with the "unintended consequences." Hugs and bisous.
I agree with all you mentioned here!
I will have to email soon. One of the owners of the Woods got into hot water with a nephew of his...as in sex with a minor after the Woods closed for the season several years ago. I'll send you some links. Several perms and camp goers are already boycotting going back. With that hitting the papers here all over, now you can guess the mob and lynchers are coming for the place!!!!!! This is gonna be a case of a bad apple ruining it for all the rest now. My other friend who almost lives next to the Woods has said one lady has already said "See what happens when you allow fruity nude people to their own. This might be the terrible beginning how people confuse nudity and sex .....again.
Does the Mom swim with the family? Then it is her decision. If it's just an all guys thing, then... no problem. But the Mom gets to say who sees her body and under what conditions.
He probably should contact the parents, what with the prevalent attitudes about being naked. Too bad, though. When I was a kid, our YMCA had Father and Son Swim every so often. There were no swimming trunks in sight, just swinging dicks.
with permission from both sides I say go for it! Boys are so self conscious anymore it would be great for them to be able to have these experiences and realize they don't have to be ashamed of their bodies.
Agree with JiEL. Unintended consequences could get out of hand fast, especially in today's hyper sensitive world.
Not worth the risk.
The enduring legacy of the Puritans
Back in public high school we had separate gym for boys and girls. We had to take one quarter of swimming once a week. Since the classes were segregated, the swim classes were in the nude. Not a problem, really.
@ Maddie - Oh, WTF??? The dude needs to be taken ut to the woodshed, for sure. And, yeah, everyone will pay the price of his stupidity. The crazies who love to lump the bad apples together are already at it, eh? Bitches.
@ Upton - I somehow got the impression that Mom would not be partaking of the festivities in any way. I wonder if Dad intended to? It would be much better if he didn't join in, either. Just let the kids be kids.
@ Huntley - It should ever be a problem, but it seems many people these days are creating an issue of males being naked around males. I'm not sure I get it. Maybe I'm too old.
There was a more natural reaction to guys being naked in front of each other many years ago compared to now. I think it is a good thing to be comfortable with your body. Guys walk around without shirts on a lot. Guys have dicks and butts and it should really not be any different being exposed in the right settings. I am about respecting others, but it everyone agrees then go for it.
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