"I been reading here for a little while now and you say we should never be ashamed by our junk even if it gets hard especially around other guys. But after almost five years of going to this same guy for massage my dick got really hard right in the middle of it. That never happened to me before. He put a towel over it and finished the massage and my hard never wilted. He gave me his bottle of oil and left the room. Almost ten minutes later he surprised me by opening the door. I wasn't done yet. He smiled and told me take my time. But I could not make myself come. Tucked my dick under my waistband and left and stroked off when I got home. Can being embarrassed keep a guy from being able to shoot?"
Not that you wanted an audience, but try to get past the idea that masturbation is something shameful. It's not.
If it happens again, do as your therapist suggests. Just relax, and go with it.
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I'm going to have to try massages.
Really.
XOXO
Being in a group circle jerk is masterbating with others. It is a shame that we are taught to be ashamed of our bodies, especially our package.
There are those who are too hard too often and those who are not hard enough and not often enough.
That's an average.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
Have a wondrous day.
I never had a masseur det mad when I got hard even a hetero one. In fact, he didn't even cover it. It went down, and neither of us mentioned it. Home masseurs usually are willing to masturbate their clients (at least ALL the men I've patronized). I was schooled relatively young that manual release is nothing to be ashamed of, nor is ejaculation.
As always, good advice.
LOL. I like French Patrick’s law of averages. More indictments, it looks like we really do have a crime family. Hugs and bisous.
I have a friend who gets performance anxiety so bad he can't even get hard.
I've had great massages where someone else took care of me or where I took care of myself. If a man does the massage and gets near my dick, I'm going to get hard. I just ignore it and see if he does. If he does, then I go home and take care of business. If he doesn't ignore it, that means he will offer to oblige or give me something and leave the room. Either way its a win win for me.
Anxiety... produced by circumstances that are unfamiliar - is a game changer. Once you get too much into your head? Game over.
@ Jean - Not the ones were were expecting, but I do think there are many more to come. Will they end the way they should? Only if we get out and vote. Hugs and bisous.
@ Maddie - Poor guy. Have you at least *tried* to help him get over that?
In basketball my friend got a nickname of Semi by the Coach, he always was to the shower with a semi harder one
I get and give massages, though I'm not a licensed therapist. Many guys will get erect during the massage. It's a natural response of the male body, regardless of what gender is providing the massage. Professionals are perfectly used to this and will usually ignore it. There's certainly no need for embarrassment. When the body is relaxed, blood flows and hormones are at work. It's delightful. If a guy seems awkward about an erection (or even a flow of pre-cum), I simply say that it means the massage is working.
But yes, when one is trying to jack off to get relief, knowing someone is nearby can make it difficult. Glad this writer could take care of it at home in full relaxation.
It's unfortunate that providing relief during a massage is often seen as prostitution and thus legally frowned upon (because the tax man is not getting a cut), even though the masseur may be doing it as a freebie not related to the massage.
A massage is the ideal environment to start to break down Victorian attitudes and facilitate a greater comfort with themselves, the bodies of other men and the acknowledgement of sex as largely being recreational, except its actively being resisted.
love these guys!
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