His Own Time

Happy Veteran's Day to all my U.S. vet readers.

"My husband and I both read your blog everyday. After my husband attended a men's seminar, he's been obssessed with teaching other men to be comfortable in their own skin. We have a 2 car garage in the back yard that he renovated with full bathroom, & kitchenette & a big tv. Every Saturday is something different when he teaches naked yoga, group massage, and masturbation. Last week a woman came looking for her husband. She was sure he was having an affair and was surprised when I answered the door and told her he was out back with the rest of the guys. It happened to be yoga day and I refused to tell her or allow her back there knowing all the guys were naked. My husband said I should've told her that it's part of losing the shame of being male. I think it's her husband's place to fill her in, not mine. What say you?"

It sounds to me like your husband must have attended a Body Electric seminar. They're wonderful. I attended one and found it absolutely life-changing. Though I was already comfortable being naked around other men and jacking off around them too because of my years in the military, this seminar brought something higher: A sense of brotherhood, because of the way they teach the classes.

First to be comfortable in the nude.

Then comfortable that all men get erections and there's no reason to be ashamed of that.

And that all men masturbate and jacking off is nothing to be ashamed of.

Then learning to communicate about what you like with a partner through erotic massage.

And then how to become multi-orgasmic.

It turned the military circle jerks I remembered into a true comradery of shared senses.

 To answer your question, I side with you. Though being proud of his body and learning more about the pleasure in how it functions is part of the process, your husband's student needs to share that with his wife in his own time, when he's fully comfortable with it.

Readers, what do you think?

Feeling Anxious?

It seems Blogger won't allow comments (again!) today - no matter what browser I use. It's a conspiracy, I tell ya! It's not helping my anxiety.

Feeling anxious today, like me?

First, if you haven't already

Then, look for things that might distract.

Or do something to calm your nerves.

And reduce your stress.

We may not know the results for days - or even weeks.

No Access

Spent the entire day without internet, waiting for an area outage to be repaired. What was there to do, once the chores were finished?

 

What do you do when you have no internet?

Quite the Conundrum

Low T (testosterone) levels have a detrimental effect on Libido. Women are being treated with low doses for the problem. Doing an internet search one can find thousands of articles on natural libido boosters. Here's one via Healthline, Men's Health: "7 Foods and Supplements That Work Like Viagra."

But there are other boner killers that this and many of the articles don't mention. One of the most common is stress. I hear some of you asking, "If stress is killing my boners, how can I de-stress by masturbating?"

Quite the conundrum, isn't it? Jacking off is a common way that men reduce stress. But, if stress is prohibiting a proper rise, what's a guy to do?

Pinpoint the culprit of stress. Remove it as best you can. Barring the ability to do so, here are some suggestions:

1. Exercise. And you don't even have to join the gym. Yep, a good old fashioned workout. Push-ups, sit-ups, jumping jacks, anything that gets you moving and your heart rate up.

2. Yoga. Basic, beginner's yoga can have quite a calming effect. So calming in fact that this stress-reducing, boner-booster can have an immediate effect.

3. Massage. Get a nice, gentle, soothing massage. And, like yoga, this can have a relaxing enough effect to reward you while you're on the table. (The happy ending is optional depending upon the therapist - but one should never ask for it or expect it.)

Removing and reducing stress = Boner Boost