Big Enough, Hard Enough

"When the time is right, will you be ready?"

So goes the catchphrase for Cialis. Evidently, the requests for boner pills is coming from younger and younger men. They're citing anxiety as the reason for the Erectile Dysfunction (ED).

Is it performance anxiety? Many, many men suffer from that. Am I going to be big enough, hard enough, last long enough?

Or is it actually stress and anxiety caused by outside influences? Job issues, ability to pay bills, world-wide political unrest? All those things can easily contribute to the inability to get a boner. 

Should men take Viagra (celebrating 20 years of assisted hard-on's) or any other drug to enhance their erections?

In a recent Healthline article Eric Garrison, clinical sexologist says, "Yes, it will give you an erection, but the pill won’t necessarily take away all those feelings of anxiety and stress related to a sexual encounter.

“That nervous piece, Viagra’s not going to get over that. They will still be nervous, but now they are just nervous with an erection.”

Boner pills are essentially safe, yes. But... But, there can be consequences to your health if taken for strictly recreational purposes. The drug lowers blood pressure, opening up the arteries for better flow. Unknown health issues can combine with the drug - or adding poppers (a common party drug used to enhance the sexual experience) can spell serious trouble.

“In the United States, sex is always easier to do than to talk about,” he [Garrison] said. “It’s not about achievement or conquering or those other things. It’s all about pleasure and you can have sexual pleasure without an erection. You can have sexual pleasure without an orgasm, but we tend to think that you need that full Eiffel Tower in our pants.”

Solve outside anxiety with meditation and Yoga rather than boner pills.

Try masturbation without them.

Go into any sexual encounter - even jacking off - with the determination to simply enjoy yourself. Forget about the size of your cock, or how hard it will (or won't) get. The more you relax, the more your mind is occupied with the pleasure, the more anxiety slips away.

If those things don't solve the problem, because ejaculation is essential to your overall mental and physical health

then, of course, go see your doctor.