Sometimes, you just have to say, "Huh." Somtimes, you just have to look for the simple answer. The following email in response to yesterday's issue of shame.
"My mom and dad were 15 when I was born. There still together. For my 13th birthday my dad took me on a week long camping and fishing trip. Before then we did weekend camping a lot. I didn't realize it for many years but he planned that birthday week to be my "talk' about sex I think because he didn't want me to make the same mistake. He actually brought some porn to show me straight and gay and bi. The first night he slipped out of the tent to take a leak. It seemed like he was gone forever so I poked my head out to see if I could see where he was. Sitting on a bench jacking his cock. I actually went out and asked if he was jerking off and if I could watch. That was my education about masterbation. He took his time and explained what it was he was doing and that he did it all the time and why he did it. In the morning he woke up with his morning boner went out of the tent and pissed and then crawled back into the tent and jerked again. And he encouraged me to do it too as often as I wanted. We spent that whole week naked and jerking off and he answered all the questions I asked. I'm 24 now and I can still ask questions when I need to. I'm writing you this for the anonymuos guy who feels shame because I think he should go ask his dad about it. I think we forget that our dads were that age once and if we'd ask they'd tell us what we need to know. I hope he does that and his dad lets him know that jerking off is good."
A young guy gets his girl pregnant and, without shame, makes sure his son knows there's an alternative to a case of the hornies.
I do have to agree we rarely acknowledge that our parents were once young and horny. We hide our hard-on's, we deny our inclination to relieve them by jacking off.
We watched Love, Simon over the weekend. There's a scene where his dad walks into his room, then leaves apologizing with a simple, "Sorry, I didn't know you were masturbating." (though Simon wasn't). It shows that fathers do know and remember what it was like to be that age and we all just need to be open and honest about it.
That way we might spare one another those feelings of shame.
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great dad, but if his wife/woman (I don't know if they're married or not) and him are still together, I think they are a very nice and well (soon) done family!!!
I totally agree - Parents are the key. My dad could have saved me years of mental and emotional torment had he just been able to be open and honest about masturbation. Adults know that it is normal and natural and it is a "thing" we have to learn - I will never understand why they just don't come right out and tell the truth about what it normal and natural.
Have a super duper bonerific day, bro. Hugs, Licks, and Strokes, AOM
A really great letter and your post is great too.
Lucky kid. My Dad's idea of "The Talk" was giving me a pamphlet about jock itch.
Now that the way things should be. What a great story.
If, in your reader's message, "masterbation" is not just a spelling mistake but a voluntary pun, I think that it's the right word.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
I would love to know what the process was to arrive at masturbation being sinful.
Hugs and bisous. We are still counting ballots!
Wednesday night here! I had a colonoscopy yesterday! No signs of anything serious, but several polyps were removed and sent for further analysis. was kept in hospital over night because of my age and because I live alone.
Great to see that some "dads" show such care of their sons regarding puberty and masturbation. If only I had had such help all those years ago.
@ Jean - good question - and worthy of a post. I can compile comments from Readers, maybe do a poll on BateWorld
Fathers/parents should talk to their children about sex. However, I find the description contained here inappropriate. How many fathers engage in masturbation with their sons for a whole day in the woods or outside or anywhere else for that matter? Talk yes but having your son find you masturbating outside the tent at night, it did not seem to be an accident, and then doing the same all day with him masturbating too - I don't think that is appropriate at all.
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