Stress and anxiety are becoming more and more prevalent. We have so much worry in our lives and it can and does have an effect on the ability to enjoy oneself. That makes it tough enjoy sex - whether it's with a partner or solo.
We can get the cock hard but we can't cum.
This article in Healthline 5 Resons Why You or Your Partner are Having Trouble Ejaculating might help shed some light on what may be happening and what we may be able to do about it.
Maybe, we place too much importance on the end game. It may help to focus on the sensations instead of cumming. Masturbation can help us learn to do that.
I'm not referring to the practice of "edging" where you bring yourself right to the brink of ejaculation. Instead, don't think about cumming at all. Just play with and tease yourself and focus on the "here and now" pleasure.
If you eventually cum, fine.
But remember it's not the goal.
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Stress is a real pain, I completely agree! 👍🏻
Gotta find ways to deal with it and enjoy life fully! 🙂
I think more men should be aware of this.
Not being able to cum does not mean we have not enjoyed ourselves, right? I blame porn and money shots as the culprit. People feel cheated if they don’t ‘see’ the money shot...
XoXo
let me say:< wanking and cumming are so relaxing ...
It's the journey, not the destination! : ) Great advice, my Friend. I hope all is well with you and yours. Wishing you all the very best. Hugs, Licks, and Strokes, AOM
"But remember it's not the goal."
May be shouldn't it be the goal.
As for me, I think that it's nearly always the goal.
But you're right, there is nothing to worry about.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
There's been many a time I can masturbate and not fun. Sometimes i just like the feeling of stroking it.
Having a tough time, do something kind for a stranger. Last week someone bought my lunch at the drive thru. Hugs and Bisous.
When at my beloved prairie, I have an end time in mind, and that is when I plan on shooting my load. So, I get there at 11:30 am and am planning on leaving at 4:00 pm. That entire time, I play with my dick. I get it hard, show it off, stroke it, let it go soft, rest it, and repeat... until the appointed time. Sometimes I read a book. Or just walk around. Or look at nature. But my hand is always on my dick. There's something very satisfying about having an erection and I tend to focus on that joy.
@ Jean - Now, that was truly nice. I don't think that has ever happened to me. But I can say that I've done things like that - those random acts of kindness - for others. And it does feel good!
Always appreciate you keeping us in touch with positive reality.
Not the goal is exactly right. Being calm, confident, and content are so important. No expectations. Just being in the moment. I have had issues in the past, both physical and psychological. Once I figured out that I didn't have to blow a load but just savor the sensations my libido returned. It took time but I was able to once again rock my world and someone else's.
-Bruce
Good grief!
Where have I been?
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