The Faithful Reader I've been having such wonderful discussions with in the areas of male sexuality has suggested it would be nice if some of the past writers-of-questions would let us know how things have turned out; whether suggested solutions have worked. Or not.
Consider this the Call to Action. If you have written in with a question, how did things work out?
One of the most frequent questions I get is wanting to know how to approach the subject of masturbation with a spouse/partner/significant other or a son in the throes of puberty. And it's not always a guy asking, either. Sometimes --- many times, actually --- it's women; wanting to know why we men seem to have to do it so often; why we try to hide it.
Biological make-up is, of course, why we jack off. The urge to release sperm is normal, natural, and has been our lot in life since the dawn of man.
Sadly, we try to hide it because, historically, it has been the subject of ridicule. If a guy is "jerkin' the gherkin," it's because he can't get laid. Even those (mostly men, immature men, btw) who claim it, know it's a falsehood. Because men jack off for many different reasons.
Somewhere along the 10 years of this blog, I enumerated those reasons. But it would be nice to rebuild/revisit it.
So, tell me, guys:
Why do you jack off?
26 comments:
Cuz it feels good!
Well, it's kinda simple for me: it feels good.
I also think that masturbation is perfectly acceptable when two people are in a relationship and one has a higher sex drive than the other (happens ALL THE TIME).
But many people consider jerking off some kind of infidelity? As if they're not enough? Been there.
XOXO
Why do you jack off?
to relax me!
Why do I jerk off? Because it feels good! Would love to take part in a group J/O.
I'm also a fan of anal stimulation. Toys of various sizes have aided my stimulation. Why do I do it? Anal stimulation feels good as well!
Other than stimulation, masturbation of any sort is very relaxing! It can help me get to sleep at night. I have to be careful in the morning-- it can be too relaxing!
--PaulMmn
Two comments about today's photos--
The young man on the blue pillows, being surprised by DAD!, is shown removing a dildo from his ass! Evidently he's advanced beyond simple J/O sessions!
Now to the last 4 pictures-- the cum shots........
How many guys have that much pressure built up that they can shoot over their shoulders, or 10 feet in the air? I've never had that much pressure, even when I was much younger! If I'm really worked up, I can maybe shoot 4". Talk about the Fountains of Youth!
--PaulMmn
I ceased to jack off more than ten years ago.
But it's not at all an advice to do the same.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
I like the commercials.
Nothing like a nice long...edging session...it feel goods...its healthy to empty semen, clears my mind, calms me down...rids me of blue balls and if at night....I sleep better. Jacking off is the last thing to do every night before going to sleep. And I still wake up hard.
Because I have a dick and thus I do!
I think women are puzzled by how much men masturbate, because they simply don't understand or can't imagine the male sex drive as they don't share the same biology. Men hide it because they are afraid women will put out even less or they will be ridiculed and shamed over it: calling a man a wanker (ie loser for not being able to get laid and having to rely on masturbation) is still a put down for any man.
Historically, men often experienced ridicule and humiliation over masturbation when they were younger and thus it became shameful so that when they matured and had sons of their own, there was a tendency to pass on that shame. Having "The Talk" about sex has been an unpleasant chore for Fathers for a long time as it reminds them of their own past traumas, so it has often been perfunctory or even absent. Only a minority of men have been progressive and properly prepared their sons, without them having to re-invent the wheel. Fortunately things have started changing recently as more men question the status quo.
Masturbation is an essential practice for most men because female partners control the frequency of sex for many reasons, which is often less than the man needs to satisfy his sex drive. Since the advent of the feminist movement, men have been less able to get what they want and as a result of homophobic propaganda have been too afraid to seek it with other men, so have had to resort to solo masturbation.
In reality, there is nothing wrong with masturbation in private (in fact, it helps to maintain male health) and it is not anyone's business except that of the individual, unless it spills over into the private space of another and is unwelcome. Just as there is nothing wrong with masturbation (or sex for that matter) between consenting adults.
Why do I jack off? I'm one of a minority of men who don't experience a pleasurable orgasm through sex or masturbation and have a low sex drive, so it is usually more effort than it is worth and only happens rarely when I am particularly aroused or to release the buildup of semen, which as I get older seems to be happening less and less.
I am 33year old gay male. And I jerk off because i don't get to have sex and I don't like random boners popping up during the day. I also do have a sex drive like everyone else. And well probably the most important one... I enjoy it.
It's an urge, and I live alone, so I haven't had anyone in the past year, ergo I've been doing it more.
Frankly if I don't release sperm, I get distracted and irritable.
But jerking off (and frot, and the like) is pretty much all I do with other guys. Just the only things I've wanted to do with other guys, since we were boys learning how much fun our dicks could be.
It's all about testosterone! At least that's my conclusion. after 4 1/2 months without any - hormone "therapy" for prostate cancer resulting in a complete loss of libido. Another few months to go for me. It's been a peaceful time - or maybe I should say boring?
I jack off because it feels good and it is an awesome stress reliever. I usually masturbate alone because I know exactly what I like. I do enjoy a good frotting session every now and then though.
@ Six - I've been there, too. Thank goodness the current wife "gets it."
@ Mistress - Of course you wake up hard. J/O the night before won't stop that. Thank goodness - #amiright?
@ Upton - LOL!
@ Don - Kind of like, "Because I can." Right?
like the Everest, Because it's there!
You know what they say, "whatever floats your boat". 😏🤷♂️
Well, exactly that. 👍🏻
Nature has gifted men with this remarkable instrument that (generally) gives pleasure, even when it is not used for the primary purpose that nature intended, plus the drive to use it widely, so it should cum as no surprise it gets used frequently off-label. It's also the first experience of sexuality that many boys often discover by accident before they are capable of using it for its intended purpose. Men are well known for re-purposing tools anyway. LOL
On the subject of pre-ejaculatory boys, apparently they are able to have multiple orgasms through masturbation, because the equipment is not yet capable of completing the process. When they mature, it seems that those who have experimented with masturbation at this age may be better able to control the ejaculation mechanism and to continue to have multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms if they desire.
If we are serious about ensuring our children maximise quality of life, then I think it is important that we educate them about what their bodies are capable of instead of leaving it up to chance discovery. This is a really difficult subject though, considering the backlash against the sexualisation of children, however it is about the child themselves and their development, rather than someone else seeking gratification from that child.
It disturbs me that masturbation in young males was considered so heinous in the 1700's to 1800's (and still was to a degree more recently) that cruel devices were developed to dissuade it. Kellogs Cornflakes were an invention designed to curb masturbation through nutrition, although it doesn't seem to have worked.
Even the animals do it naturally as this charming anecdote about adolescent boars demonstrates, even if it is to the chagrin of the observer: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-05-09/todd-alexander-from-corporate-life-to-farming-strife-tree-change/11077518
@ Anon - If you're wondering did it help me open up to masturbating with my buddies, I can say that none of my male relationships are in that realm. Would I be willing if they were? Of course. My boys opened my eyes to that possibility. - Dad
I jack off because I want to release sexual pressure. I am imagining draining my nuts, so there is room for more semen. It feels good and gives me a masculinity boost, so to say.
@ Anon - it's good to hear that assisting your sons has also theoretically broadened your own potential horizons.
Whilst none of your male relationships are currently as open as your sons, perhaps you could continue your assistance program in finding a way to open their eyes to other options through education, not necessarily directly by you, but maybe by casually mentioning the topic of evolving male sexuality you had read about recently and piquing their interest: you have to start somewhere simple and if you want things to change, you have to initiate it yourself, not wait for it to happen.
I certainly wasn't expecting you to suddenly suggest mutual masturbation with your buddies. How did you go about introducing the subject with your sons?
Do your buddies ever talk about sexuality? Casual comments about not getting enough, or the lengths you have to go to get access to sex with a woman can be an opening to the concept of other options and a discussion about why they currently aren't considered. I know men find it difficult to be open and thus vulnerable about their intimate lives, but I believe it is a gift to gently encourage them to further growth and other options that they may never have considered because they didn't think it was within the capability realm of men or had been misled that it was evil or unmanly.
PS: you don't need to answer any of the above questions, they are more rhetorical to get you thinking outside the box (pun intended), but if you feel like sharing, by all means.
@ Anon - Of course we've talked about it Mainly because of the situation with my sons. They didn't say they thought it was wrong or nasty or any other negative things. None of my friends thught it would be something they would be interested in. But they're all married so that might have a lot to do with it. Do they jerk off? Of course they do and they admit that freely. - Dad
@ Dad - maybe you mentioned discussing these things with your buddies in another post which I haven't seen: I didn't know that background. So effectively, you have already sown the seeds of other options with your buddies. Maybe those seeds will grow when the ground is more fertile: marriage is no guarantee of male fulfillment forever, as you yourself attest to.
After stress, anger or having a bad day. That's when it calms or relaxes me the most. It just feels like it fixes or restores me again and I can start over with hopefully a better day.
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