The thumb is a little bit better today. But I haven't banged it against anything --- yet.
"I have never commented, but I have been a follower for quite some time and I am grateful to you for this space of acceptance that you have created.
I'd like to know your opinion about something that has crossed my mind lately. Summer is almost here and I'd like to go to a nude beach for the first time to experience the feeling of freedom that I think it brings (and if I get a full-body tan, the better), but I'd rather not go alone. I'd ask my best friend, but I fear that he will take it badly. I mean, it might be a little weird for me to ask him if he wants to come with me to a nude beach just like that. What do you think I should do?
I await your opinion and I hope to continue being part of this community for a long time."
I answered as best I could with a maimed thumb. It's his best friend. Just ask. If he doesn't want to get naked, he doesn't have to. As you can see in the pics - not everyone gets naked at a nude beach. Readers, what's your advice?
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Just say that you're thinking of going to a nude beach and that you're nervous about it and would like some company to feel more comfortable.
I guess, you've seen each other naked before. I think that's part of male bonding, guessing from my own experience. So why don't simply ask him? Maybe he likes the idea too.
If not, he may also keep some clothes on. I think the times are long gone, when clothed visitors to "FKK-beaches", as we in Germany say, are forced to strip.
Most people being first shy do take off everything too after a while for not appearing ridiculous.
a reader from Germany
I told my friend while we were visiting Floria, "I've always dreamed of going to that nude beach (Haulover Beach) north of Miami, and I want to go this summer to experience it. Do you have any interest in going? I'd be less nervous with a friend." He quickly said yes and agreed he'd often thought of it too. We were both nervous as hell, though we'd seen each other naked before in the gym shower and during previous travels together. We scoped out the beach online and learned about what to expect, then we made our way there with towels and chairs. After stripping down and settling in, the nerves were gone. We weren't gawking at each other, just casually glancing at the other nude bodies around us. It felt very natural and erotic at the same time. It was not the least bit awkward between my buddy and me, and we've talked about going again some day.
I agree. It's his best friend. Bet he'd tell the friend he went to the nudist beach, so asking if the friend wants to come along for moral support is not stepping in any boundaries.
Worst thing is the friend could say no to the invite.
And move on.
XOXO
Tres bon conseil...
Jeff Bordeaux
I have definitely asked a straight friend to join me at a nude beach--- and he was grateful to hang out, and we had a great time. Men in general appreciate sex and sexual energy-- your friend can enjoy the nude beach in his own way, and you in yours. And he can always wear a bathing suit while you explore your personal comfort....he's your best friend, right? He'll understand!
"Will you come with me to a nude beach" would sound weird. But it'd be ok to say "I want to go to a nude beach, but i don't to go on my own. Would you come with me? You don't have to go nude, it's clothing optional. So you can choose if you want to or not"
I too say go for it....the worst he'll say is no.
Been there! I had been before and enjoyed it, even though I was alone. Then one day I just told my best friend that I was going to a nude beach and asked if he wanted to go. He had questions, but was interested. We both agreed that we would leave if he felt uncomfortable. He enjoyed it as much as I did and we went several times before moving to an area that doesn’t have anything remotely like that…miss it!
I'm going to assume that your correspondent is a guy thinking about asking his guy-friend to go skinny dipping with him.
It would all depend on how comfortable they both are about discussing things like sex and body parts and things like that.
And if his friend would think he's putting the make on him.
It would be easier if they were jack-off buddies and used to seeing each other naked. Then it would just be a matter of letting it all hang out with a crowd of onlookers!
I agree, just ask: "I'm thinking about going to xxx Beach, would you like to go too?
It really is that simple, if they say they aren't comfortable going nude, say fine just wear what you feel comfortable wearing.
But same goes for you too, wear what is comfortable. Hugs and bisous.
If he doesn’t ask, he’ll never know. Is his friend already a naked buddy? Or will this be the first time they will see each other naked? Whatever, nothing ventured, nothing gained, as one of my high school teachers used to say.
Exactly, if the friend doesn't feel comfortable, they aren't obligated to lose all of their clothes. But I think it could be interesting to try to go there. Experience something new. Even just to be with people who aren't ashamed and feel free. 🙂
Go! Go1 Go! Your first time is always scary, but once you're there and realize everyone is there with the same goal it becomes second nature. Be careful though, it's addictive! LOL. As for your friend, how well do you know him? Make it a natural conversation,don't just blurt it out. Ask if he's ever been or ever thought about it. Ask his feelings and if they're positive end with 'let's go'! But if he's anti-beach then go it alone. Lots of folks go alone and you'll find nudists to be very friendly so it would be easy for you to make new friends there.
I love the nude gay swimming hole. It's very reassuring that every man there has a penis - and they're all different and enticing!
as he doesn't clarify if his best friend is gay or straight there are a lot of unknowns. Is he concerned his invite might be misconstrued as some kind of come on? I think your advise is sound: ask the friend, tell him he doesn't want to go alone and why, and mention nudity is an option but not mandatory. If the friend says no than accept and respect his decision.
No harm, no foul. Ask. Accept the answer, no matter what it is. No pressure. And go alone... you might meet someone interesting!
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