Wednesday, November 30, 2022

A Lot of Focus

 

"Out shopping on black friday there was a guy walking around the store with a obvious boner not even trying to hide it. Don't most men try to at least try to cover it up? You can sign me A New Reader"

Ha! Couldn't have timed that question any better if I had planned it.


Yes, most men do try to hide a hard-on. It harkens back to our younger days in high school using books to hide the crotch, being worried in gym class about popping a boner in the showers or locker room.

Now, lately, hard or soft there's been a lot of focus on the VPL - Visible Penis Line.



So much attention that one company, Matador, has designed pants (leggings) for men, called Meggings. They've sewn a pocket into the pouch for a "soft molded crotch cup" to conceal the VPL, "so that people can't tell your religion." Of course, all that really does is enhance the bulge.

The exception seems to be the wrestling singlet.







As for the guy you saw in the store, I'd have to say, "Good for him." Is there a reason men should hide their cocks? 


Just like when we see a woman, we know she's got breasts. And not only do they not try to hide them, some do their best to flaunt them.


When you see a man (trans men notwithstanding) isn't it a given he's got a cock? Is there a reason he should try to hide that fact?




If it gets hard, it's a normal and natural function and, truly, we have zero control over spontaneous boners.




Boner or not, society as a whole needs to get over being shocked or dismayed or offended by the male bulge.

Readers, what do you think?

Should men hide a boner if it develops when out in public?

20 comments:

Your French Patrick said...

Exchange of good practices: the one who notices your erection must be kind enough to point it out to you kindly and discreetly, and yourself if you notice his erection you must be kind enough to point it out to him nicely and discreetly.

Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
Have a great day;

SickoRicko said...

If they still have their clothes on, no.

BatRedneck said...

Should anyone get offended at the sight of a woman whose nipples are pointing beneath her shirt - or whatever she is wearing?
Some women during their period, pregnant women, lactating women, ANY sensible woman will know for sure what I'm talking about.
I agree, Pat, with your statement that a hard on is "a normal and natural function" which "we have zero control over".
Think about it, A New Reader: what would you think of a society rule that would prohibit showing your goosebumps while watching the latest adaptation of a Stephen king's novel?

This reminds me of one of one of your posts, sometime last year, when a concerned small business owner had to deal with one of her female employee who had filed a complaint about harassment at the workplace just because one of her colleagues was endowed enough he got to "put his things back in place" during break time.
Many a time, the offender is the one who looks.
And we all know how they deal with their guilt once they lay under their sheets when comes night...

whkattk said...

@ Laurent - Excellent comparison of the nipple issue - even cold weather will make nipples stand out. It's out of their control just as our spontaneous erections are out of our control.

Hooter from Owls Rest said...

Maximus is gifted in that department, at times it is obvious that he is packing and glad to see me. He asked if it bothered me and I said no. In fact I am flattered. If some women can show camel toes, what is wrong with us showing a fire hose?

Anonymous said...

Men should not hide it,also love seeing the VPL its just not that often unfortunately

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

I think a VPL is super hot.
Super, super hot.

XOXO

P.S. is that Mads in the brown t-shirt?????


XOXO

Anonymous said...

Very amusing. I agree completely. If it's alright for female hippos to wear spandex, then men shouldn't be embarrassed about showing some peen.

PaulMmn said...

Nipples-- mine do their best to look like Batman's...

re: the cop with a boner-- is it out-of-line to compliment him? "Nice boner, officer!" with a wink.

--PaulMmn

Anonymous said...

I think its because the penis is more intimately tied to sex and society still hasn't got the Victorian era out of its system and still gets ashamed about anything to do with making sex more obvious outside the bedchamber. We tend to hide things we are ashamed, or have reflected shame, about.

I'm all for men and women being able to let it all hang out naturally, but too many people are worried it might scare the horses. Interesting the number of young men now in public being unconcerned about touching it, which bodes well for the future.

The other aspect is thinking a certain state of genitalia represents an invitation and getting it wrong and the embarassment that ensues. We do need to be more tolerant of misinterpretation or expressions of interest and not start criminalising them as harassment or worse.

I wish I had a Maximus in my life where they were concerned it might bother me.

Mistress Maddie said...

I sometimes think some guys who gets frequent hard-ons, they probably aren't aware of them half the time. And singlets??? Not pictured here... but no one ever looked hotter in one then Michael Baptisia!!! The man had every guy in the gymnasium staring and wanting a piece of him. Those straight guys couldn't even cover up their blatant staring.

JeanWM said...

My vote is, don't hide anything. Yes your mother/sister, etc knows what a VPL is.

If you don't want to see bulges, then don't look. I'm curious, does a man or a woman staring or admiring your VPL, make you feel uncomfortable? When does admiring turn into leering?
Hugs and bisous.

whkattk said...

@ Maddie - Looked and couldn't find anything....

Xersex said...

#9: the "modesty pad makes me smile

Anonymous said...

I am a man and I have cock and balls and they show their outline in my jeans. What is wrong with that? I am well endowed and when I pop a boner it shows, but I am not willing to be ashamed of a natural reaction of my body.

fullmoonma said...

At the nude gay swimming hole in VT where I go (www.rockriverpreservation.org) the protocol is when you get a boner, find a tree - in the adjacent woods. There's a public trail opposite the beach, and very rarely someone who isn't looking for the beach wanders by. Also very rarely there will be a tuber coming down the river. Nudity isn't illegal in VT, but we're trying to be good neighbors.

Most of the guys are naked but the exception is usually a very young looking guy. My theory is he's worried about showing a boner, which might convey a message he doesn't wast to send. He's not looking for sex just thrilled to be in a place with a lot of good looking gay men, possibly for the first time in his life. I remember bringing a young couple to the swimming hole for the first time and they both were hard the whole time!

There's a nice wooded cruising area adjacent to the beach and hardons are frequently seen up there - I usually do a walking masturbation at least once a visit. But I've participated in JO circles, put on shows with my partner, and observed lots of hardons in action.

In town, I like showing a bulge, and seeing one on the street, but I'd be embarrassed if I ran into an acquaintance showing as much as the great photos in today's post!

whkattk said...

@ Jean - VERY good question that I think I must pose to readers. Hugs and bisous.

uptonking said...

Adore the escalator gif. Woof. And, yes... I think of all the shame I felt... now? I love walking around the prairie showing it off... I adore public displays of erections.

UtahJock said...

It's human anatomy. Leave it be.

clearplast said...

What’s wrong with a bulge? Shall we men wear cushion? No, it is just our anatomy.