Numb Crotch

 

A friend from my days in the theatre did a second post on social media that he's been experiencing a "numb crotch," called Pudendal Neuralgia, since an accident earlier in the year. Well, you all know me. I couldn't pass up the chance to give a bit of guidance.

While a numb cock won't prevent spontaneous boners, the "on demand" ones just won't rise to the occasion. 

Guys are visual creatures when it comes to sexual arousal so it's possible to use the imagination (or porn) to get hard. But numbness prevents sensation, thereby preventing the ability to reach orgasm and/or ejaculation.

Not being able to cum can be frustrating as hell.

Unless, of course, you're great at fantasy and a master at what is known as "hands-free" ejaculation.

The first suggestion I made (delicately, since it was on social) was to get seat cushioning for his computer chair that will ease the pressure on the perineum. 

And, because he bikes everywhere if he doesn't walk, a proper bike seat.

Further crushing the central nerve bundle on top of the trauma from the accident is perpetuating the problem.

If that doesn't ease the numbing over time by allowing the nerves to reinvigorate, it may be time to go see a Urologist certified in Acoustic Wave Therapy, which is FDA approved to help restore damaged tissue.

And see if that can get things functioning properly again.

Hard-Flaccid Syndrome

 

Boners are good. Boners are good for you.

I've posted that many times over the years of this blog.

But what happens when they don't fully develop? You can get a semi-hardon --- the chub --- but no matter what you do, no matter what the stimulation, the cock just won't stand up?

As a guy who knows how frustrating it can be, this article by Magdalene Taylor over at MEL magazine, "THE PAINFUL MYSTERY OF HARD-FLACCID SYNDROME" (HFS) proves it's more than "all in your head."

"As many men with HFS report, they’re told they’re imagining things or written off with a prescription for pills. To that end, a 2020 study published in Basic and Clinical Andrology states that HFS “is not recognized by the sexual medicine community, and poorly recognized in the daily clinical experience.”

This YouTube clip explains the syndrome.

The problem is experienced by quite a few men, if more than 1700 Reddit members are any indication, but the medical community is pretty much ignoring it. So, naturally, the guys have taken matters into their own hands, so-to-speak.

There's a group addressing the symptoms, possible causes, and possible solutions on Reddit: r/Hard_Flaccid 

When doctors don't want to listen to you, you take to the internet. One of the group's moderators explained to Taylor,  “I basically had no idea what to do about it. I ended up going to a few urologists, but most shot me down or gave me Cialis. One even made me get circumcision surgery.” 

Pelvic floor exercises helped him: Kegels, the stretch and relax exercises, sort of the opposite of Kegels (I posted about several weeks ago), and Perineum Massage, (which I also posted about a few weeks ago).

There's still no real answers. Some things worked for some guys, but not all. But, as we know, most men are not ready to give up on regaining a functioning cock.

More Talking Roots

A message asking for clarification on the issue of bicycle seats.

"oy, I'm confused...I have always read that vigorous or frequent bicycle riding WAS a potential cause of ED.

Now someone is inserting the bicycle seat under a chair for...saving the perineum and preventing ED?

See: Can Cycling Cause Erectile Dysfunction, [from June 2017].

Now I'm not sure what is what...Can you find out?" JL

The boner-crushing bike seats are to be avoided by guys.

The new designs, labeled as Anatomic Relief Zone Bicycle Seats, protect the perineum. 

We should never sit on anything for any real length of time that doesn't provide proper cushioning. Even those giant exercise balls that have been touted as the perfect way to sit for long periods of time, promote proper posture, and work the core muscles, should be avoided as a replacement for your 8-hour workday desk chair.

Be kind to your cock - the entire thing, not only the length you see when dropping trou. 

 Protect the boner.

With Care and....

Uh-huh. This is why I so appreciate all my readers.

"Dear Pat,

I read the post on desk chairs and thought I'd share my solution.

A trip to my urologist and a sonogram later proved that's exactly what was happening to me. The doctor told me I needed to quit putting "body crushing pressure" on the perineum. A search for a proper desk chair came up empty so I improvised.

I bought a bicycle seat, removed the hardware and used it as an added cushion at work. Some of the guys made jokes about it so I made it a permanent part of the chair by putting it under the upholstery. It was pretty easy to remove the staples and slip it in and then restaple the cloth. My boners are definitely worth it. -Paul"

So, guys, flagging boners do not need to be a foregone conclusion. With care and a little ingenuity we can prevent them.

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Happy to tell you that Faithful Reader French Patrick is home from the hospital. He says he's well, but exhausted. We send our warmest hugs and bisous for continued healing.

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I have an appointment today to have the stitches from the minor surgery removed. Have an excellent day.