Nice and Easy

So, I think I'm ready to post this. "Cleanliness is next to Godliness" is an old, old adage. But, from what I can gather, this is an important step in preparing if you even think anal sex might be on the agenda.

Nothing is worse than, as one Faithful Reader stated, pulling out and "finding your dick full of you-know-what." So, if you're going to be on the receiving end, get clean. Douche or, some folks use enemas.

The biggest fear most have (women and men - but particularly the guys) is that it will hurt.

If you're a considerate partner, the key is to enter very slowly. Bottoms are encouraged to breath out upon insertion, because it helps relax the sphincter. As Casey Guren, Buzzfeed sex advice columnist suggests, "Ease into it with other anal play first." Dr. Ian Kerner, founder of GoodInBed.com "suggests starting with some rimming, fingering, and foreplay to help you get relaxed and aroused."

And use lube - lots of lube. Some guys produce a lot of pre-cum, yet it may not be enough. So, lube up really well.

Unless you are in a completely monogamous relationship, and you know for certain neither of you have any Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), always, always, always use a condom. Which means you must choose your lube carefully to make sure it is compatible with latex.

Once you've entered, no jack-rabbit pounding. 

 At least not until your partner gives you the okay.

"There are also some books that can really help you understand and enjoy anal play. Joe Kort, PhD suggests The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners by Charlie Glickman, Ph.D, and Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women and Couples by Jack Morin, Ph.D."

Finally, French Patrick provided another great resource. This article on Quora provides a great list of dos and don'ts.

The prostate is your G-Spot, guys. As many of you have noticed when jacking off, it can be extremely pleasurable to stimulate it. You just need to take it nice and easy.

Oops

Oops. The girl did the wrong thing with her man....

Most men have experienced a premature ejaculation at some time in their life; cumming before they want to. It's rather along the lines of a spontaneous ejaculation - you aren't expecting it and all of a sudden, bam! there it is, gushing like a volcano. It's not fun, it doesn't really feel all that great, because you missed the pleasure of getting there.

But, what happened when that happened? Did the person you were with criticize you? Did you criticize him? That is the absolutely wrong thing to do to a guy. It can drive him to retreat into a shell, make him uncommunicative. Or, worse - make him avoid sexual contact.

It happens, and it happens to the best of us. It can even happen during masturbation. The best thing is to shrug it off. Make light of the situation.

If the refractory time (how long it takes to get hard again) is relatively short, take another shot at it. Take it slow and enjoy it.

What has your experience been with either a partner, or finding yourself in this situation? 

That's All It Takes

I hope everyone had a better weekend than this young man.

"I've been seeing this girl for about four moinths. We started getting into mutual hand jobs pretty quick but that's all we do. I never put my dick near her pussy and always rolled away from her to shoot my jizz on myself. Now she says she's preganant. How is that possible? Happy fucking Easter, huh?"

Well, son, it's like this: There's this stuff called pre-ejaculate, commonly referred to as pre-cum. Did you play with your cock and then put your hands into or even near her vagina? Did she stroke your slicked-up boner and then play with herself?

Pre-cum can contain sperm. If your cock was coated with it, no matter which of you was doing the stroking, and that got in - or even near enough to - her vagina that's all it takes.

 

This is one more reason why parents need to be having serious discussions with their kids. Sorry, young dude. If the two of you aren't ready and properly committed to raising a child, remember you have options.

Your Favorite Candy

I hope all of my Jewish readers had a good Passover.

Today, Happy Easter.

 May you find your favorite candy in your Easter basket.

Have a great day!