Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Oops

Oops. The girl did the wrong thing with her man....
Most men have experienced a premature ejaculation at some time in their life; cumming before they want to. It's rather along the lines of a spontaneous ejaculation - you aren't expecting it and all of a sudden, bam! there it is, gushing like a volcano. It's not fun, it doesn't really feel all that great, because you missed the pleasure of getting there.

But, what happened when that happened? Did the person you were with criticize you? Did you criticize him? That is the absolutely wrong thing to do to a guy. It can drive him to retreat into a shell, make him uncommunicative. Or, worse - make him avoid sexual contact.

It happens, and it happens to the best of us. It can even happen during masturbation. The best thing is to shrug it off. Make light of the situation.



If the refractory time (how long it takes to get hard again) is relatively short, take another shot at it. Take it slow and enjoy it.




What has your experience been with either a partner, or finding yourself in this situation? 

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

I had it happen once when i was giving a friend (both of us male) a massage. Was meant to be sensual and relaxing but not intended to lead up to any ejaculation. Anyway, half way through all this, while i was handling his cock and balls (carefully avoiding the standard wanking up-down hand stroke) he suddenly said, "Oh, i think something just happened!" True enough, he had just unexpectedly cum, so we paused to clean up, then carried on with the massage.

SickoRicko said...

It's not the end of the world! Get over it.

Xersex said...

it happened me so rarely I cant remember, to tell you the truth!

Patrick said...

You certainly have a wonderful selection of "images"! And, of course, your advice is always to the point! "Sorry! Didn't mean to cum so fast!" was the usual! Then hope to revive fairly soon! I've told the guy with the STOP sign that you wanted him and he's on his way!!!

Mark Greene said...

There have been times when I tried to edge and I would come sooner than I wanted to. But I never felt disappointed by that. I probably yelled out fuck ! as in OOPS ! but It's all good usually I am horny enough for round two in a few.

Fullmoonma said...

I mostly have erotic massage sessions with others - with the goal of avoiding ejaculation for 20 to 30 minutes for my partners, and only ejaculating every week or so myself. Communication helps - sharing the intention to hold off and telling partner when to back off to prolong the session. But sometimes ejaculation happens sooner than planned, and once it become inevitable, enjoy it! I've recently been seeing a man who is so hot that I usually ejaculate. It's not a visual thing, or related to fantasy, but a rare gift that is to be celebrated!

Fullmoonma said...

One of the advantages of the multi-orgasmic masturbation technique I use (see Bruce P. Grether's "9 golden keys to mindful masturbation" on the web) is that once you learn to control ejaculation your orgasms can be spontaneously enjoyed and when you finish a session you are all charged up. The orgasms are signaled by cock getting stiffer and harder, and then just before the peak, a flow of precome, but the instant of orgasm can be enjoyed again and again.