Wednesday, April 4, 2018

Nice and Easy

So, I think I'm ready to post this. "Cleanliness is next to Godliness" is an old, old adage. But, from what I can gather, this is an important step in preparing if you even think anal sex might be on the agenda.
Nothing is worse than, as one Faithful Reader stated, pulling out and "finding your dick full of you-know-what." So, if you're going to be on the receiving end, get clean. Douche or, some folks use enemas.

The biggest fear most have (women and men - but particularly the guys) is that it will hurt.

If you're a considerate partner, the key is to enter very slowly. Bottoms are encouraged to breath out upon insertion, because it helps relax the sphincter. As Casey Guren, Buzzfeed sex advice columnist suggests, "Ease into it with other anal play first." Dr. Ian Kerner, founder of "suggests starting with some rimming, fingering, and foreplay to help you get relaxed and aroused."

And use lube - lots of lube. Some guys produce a lot of pre-cum, yet it may not be enough. So, lube up really well.
Unless you are in a completely monogamous relationship, and you know for certain neither of you have any Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), always, always, always use a condom. Which means you must choose your lube carefully to make sure it is compatible with latex.

Once you've entered, no jack-rabbit pounding. 

 At least not until your partner gives you the okay.
"There are also some books that can really help you understand and enjoy anal play. Joe Kort, PhD suggests The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners by Charlie Glickman, Ph.D, and Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women and Couples by Jack Morin, Ph.D."

Finally, French Patrick provided another great resource. This article on Quora provides a great list of dos and don'ts.
The prostate is your G-Spot, guys. As many of you have noticed when jacking off, it can be extremely pleasurable to stimulate it. You just need to take it nice and easy.


A French Patrick said...

Finally, my perseverance paid off. Thank you, Pat.

If I can add an advice for the beginners (and, alas, probably many others), please, don't confuse the porn and the real life. In the porn, there is an incredible number and variety of special effects and tricks for faking what you see. The porn is made to make us fantasize, it is everything but an instruction manual or a recipe book.

As regards the "you-know-what", let me quote this excerpt: "About being "clean down there", not only is it embarrassing to see shit on a top's dick when he pulls out, but shit is very abrasive, which can make fucking very uncomfortable. Often, the only thing you will need to do before sex is to wash the outside of the asshole to eliminate any foul odors or tastes. The best way to determine if you are clean is the "finger test." This is done by inserting a lubed finger in your ass while sitting over a toilet. If you feel any small pieces of shit, you can gently pull them out. Doing this will also pre-lube your ass. Of course, be sure to wash your hands and butt before having sex. However, if your finger feels messy soft shit inside your ass, you can try washing it out with an enema or douche. Unfortunately, enemas can make things messier because water will often get trapped inside and come gushing out unexpectedly during sex."

Love, hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.

Patrick said...

Wonderful advice! Yes! I remember the first time! He was "BIG"! And I mean "BIG"! At first it hurt, but he got a rhythm up and then it felt "OH SO GOOD"! We both "came" eventually - him inside me and me shooting a load I never thought that I would shoot. He wanted it again and so did I. We sat talking for a bit and then I started to suck him. We both got hard and he fucked me again. I should have mentioned that he greased me up with his fingers and got me ready that way. No condom!

SickoRicko said...

Another great post with hot pix!

Gabriel said...

When I read the headline "Nice and Easy," I was ready for a post of dying pubes with hair color! LOL!

I am in total agreement in regards to be prepared if you are going to do anal. Excellent advice and resource references.

Fullmoonma said...

Excellent advice! But remind your readers why a bottom might want to do this. For me it's the bonding with the top and submitting to him and his cock, which takes 15 minutes or so to achieve. Then there's nothing like it! As a bottom I don't understand in my body the compulsion of tops to fuck. When I top it's in service to a needy bottom, which is generally a good thing.

Pain is a guide and comes from several situations. Basic rule is that if it's painful you need to change what you're doing.

1. Forcing the anal sphincters to stretch when they aren't relaxed is bad. Pulling out and waiting a little while often works. Warm water enemas help to relax. But sometimes the sphincters just don't want to relax and you need to do something else.

2. If it feels scratchy you need more lube.

3. Cocks longer than 7" produce pain for me - I think it's hitting the bend at the upper end of the rectum. Find a position that limits insertion

Anonymous said...

"Your prostate is your G-spot"

In the sense that most women actually never have a G-spot orgasm in their lives, and not for lack of trying, but any clitoral orgasm (which, for most women, is the only kind) would be seen as "immature".

Most of the really big "prostate as G-spot" advocates (and again,the majority of women have no G-spot) deride mutual masturbation similarly.

Xersex said...

you meant this post ispirimg my last

to be honest no, because I love the mix holes + soles!

however, I enjoy a loto being rimmed, if I'm sure I'm clean!

T said...

Another area to be aware of with the bum is blood. That can happen too.

Anal tearing can be a common occurrence (reduced by using water based lube and plenty of it). You can also rip/burst the blood vessels around the a hole itself (happens more frequently with men than women).

A sign you do need to pay attention to is when you feel a warm sensation flush through your rectum/anal cavity but stops short of breaching pass your a hole. Hemorrhoids and Haematochezia (Rectal bleeding). Stop and see the doctor; unchecked it can lead to more serious issues.

The later is not just through intercourse or anal play. It happens through pooping too. Pay attention to your poo.

Anonymous said...

Wetwipes should be standard protocol. Usually that's all you need to do if you're not straight from the shower, and you have a good diet. Meaning the rectum can be surprisingly clean if you eat right, so you dont have to use the enema, that can be such a drippy mess, especially if you go too deep. Shove a mild soapy finger up your hole when showering, that ensures the chute is clean. If you're playing after you've gone #2 then you'd better wetwipe. Even if you dont plan on doing anal, it's just polite. I put a few wipes in a little snack ziplock and leave it in the car so i can take it anywhere. You never know if somebody will finger your ass or rim you, let alone fucking so always be ready and clean. The prostate and anal area are a potential erogenous zone for every man, so being secure in your cleanliness lets you relax and get over the stigma so you can enjoy it.