Friday, June 7, 2013
At the time we reach puberty, men experience something unique. The balls get larger and drop further, the cock gets longer and thicker, hair sprouts on our faces, under our arms, around our genitals and we begin a growth spurt that, until then, is unprecedented. And, at that point we first begin to sense something we can't quite fathom - at least not until someone points it out and explains it to us.
It begins with a sensation of heaviness and fullness in the nuts, there's an 'ache' in them we don't understand. They feel swollen somehow. Then it radiates out to the entire groin, spreads to the inner thighs. Our cocks get ultra-sensitive; any movement will make them twitch. Even hauling it out to take a piss seems to bring on a bit of a - if not full-blown - boner.
That sucker gets as hard as a steel fence post, snaking down a pant leg, threatening to bust through the material. It's as if it's never soft. Things become ... surreal.
Left unchecked, a tension creeps into the muscles of the abdomen and slowly invades the entire body. A sense of being wound tighter than a spool of thread invades our entire body. The muscles in our shoulders and neck fill with knots. We can become surly and snap at the most innocuous things - an innocent comment, a funny look.
Pubescent males get a bad rap because of this. We're accused of being moody and uncontrollable. In short, we're horny. If we would only be told this is what is causing these strange things to happen and how to deal with them, we'd be happy and walking around with smiles on our faces all the time.
Friends of mine once regaled me with stories about their son who was exhibiting all those symptoms. I said, "Oh, for crying out loud, cut the kid a break! He's just horny! He needs to get his nuts off." The following weekend, when he snapped at his mother about something, she told him, "Jesus Christ, you either need to go get laid" (he was much too young for that!) "or you need to go in your room and jerk off. Come back when you're not so horny and maybe we can talk." He growled something, stomped down the hall and slammed his bedroom door. But, by golly! two hours later, he came out much calmer and all smiles.
Complete honesty and openness can help to improve a lot of situations. A male's life-long physiological urge, his need, to spread his seed is innate. If he's made aware of that and taught how to deal with it early on, he'll have a much easier time in life. And, as a parent, so will you.