Tuesday, February 12, 2019

A Brother-Husband

The situation has been covered before, but this appears to have a new twist.

"I live in a house as a Brother-Husband. There's four of us now and it's all fine. Everyone contributes to the finances and stuff. We all sleep in a sultan size bed and there's sex damn near every night. Who could complain about that? The problem arose when I couldn't sleep. I didn't want to disturb everyone and I went out to the livingroom. I had a nice long and slow session of masturbation. One of the guys found me asleep on the couch in the morning covered in dried jizz. The pouting started and hasn't let up. I don't get what the problem is. Everyone reads your blog. Maybe they'd listen to you."



Well, alrighty, then. Yes, we've covered this issue before when guys have written in about wives/girlfriends getting jealous over the jacking off. I do have to admit I'm surprised that guys would be upset over this. But, we're all human and our feelings get hurt.
Listen guys: Masturbation is a wonderful sleep aid. Sometimes we just want to get our rocks off without worrying about satisfying anyone else. Both those situations are quite normal. Now you're making him feel guilty and shaming him for that.
Sure, he could've remained in bed and gone at it, and risked waking the rest of you. Instead, he went elsewhere to achieve what you all had: Sleep. He thought he was being considerate. I think you need to cut your Brother-Husband a break here.


Readers?

16 comments:

SickoRicko said...

That's a situation I know nothing about.

Your French Patrick said...

Well, his "friends" are going to have to stop their childish (in the best hypothesis) pouting that nothing justifies or excuses.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.

Jean WM said...

Good advice, sometimes folks have just not heard it before. This is the teaching blog, and Pat is the professor. Hugs and bisous.

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

Well, this is one of the things that should have been discussed when they talked about boundaries, sex preferences and issues like consent and non-monogamy.
Men masturbate. That's a fact. Even when there's a bedful of brother husbands in the next room.
I've learned that if a man is with me and he stills jerks off, I should give him the space. And expect he'd do the same for me...

mistress maddie said...

wELL, I don't know I'm sure what a Brother Husband is??????????

Xersex said...

what's the problem? I can't understand! masturbating isn't allowed? so strange!

Xersex said...

let me this: masturbating is a relaxing activity. Sometimes, when I can sleep, I masturbate to relax and fall asleep. And it works!

Baldy said...

Agree with you - he was being considerate of his mates and taking care of his issue without disturbing them... a great guy in my book.

AOM SoulFood said...

Hey Bro, Through my years of studying and researching Masturbation or Self-Love, I've found that it is most important that everyone take what I call "Me Time" to make love to ourselves. Masturbation is an integral part of our sexuality. Masturbation is not a substitute for sex - it is sex, making-love to ourselves for ourselves. It is how we learn what pleasures us the most and each individual is the only ones who know how to give that. That's because of the vibrations that we give to our sex organs - no one but me can feel that inside me - I can't feel it in you, nor you me. So we are the only ones who can do this for ourselves. Also, it is very important to remember that the better lover we are with ourselves, the better lover we can be with others.

Each of these guys need to take time away to Masturbate. I would also recommend that they take time to Masturbate with each other - each one in turn showing the others what brings him deeper pleasures. Friends of mine took my suggestion and were amazed at what they learned about each other - they then were able to incorporate that knowledge in their "WE Time". There's my book. : )

I hope all is well with you, bro. Wishing you a Jizz-a-licious day! Hugs, Licks, and Strokes, AOM

R Rad said...

I wonder the age or maturity of this enclave? Re: When I was younger, I felt like I needed to control - including in sex. Who should cum first? Who is going to receive? When do we beat off? It was that "Alpha-male" need to dominate. It sounds like this questioner is not the alpha-male in that household.

...or it could just be jealously on the part of his "brother-husband"; that the bed was not enough. My first Ex was like that. If I decided I just wanted to JO, roll over and go to sleep, he would get pissy with me that I didn't want to plow him (every freaking night...). There was a lot more mental dysfunction in that relationship, though...

Anyhow.

I have been with my husband for 20 years now. We're middle-age, and are perfectly comfortable with just tending to our own needs at our own pace and in our own time. I hope this "Brother-Husband" can get there in his life.

Fullmoonma said...

The next time your correspondent is wakeful in bed, maybe he should masturbate there and see what happens? However, in similar situations with only one partner I go into the other room and then come back to bed more relaxed, often after a short post-orgasmic nape on the sofa! Of course masturbation should be accepted, even celebrated, by his partners.

whkattk said...

@ mistress - A Brother-Husband is the gay side of Mormon polygamy; now called "polyamory" - acknowledging that we can love more than one person at a time. They live together as married, though only one couple can legally be husbands, while the other two (sometimes) go through a Commitment Ceremony.

whkattk said...

@ Jean - awww, thanks. Welcome back. Such tumult to return to, though with Northam, et al at the top of the VA political food chain. Yikes!

mistress maddie said...

Thanks for clearing that up tootes! I like to be in the know on such things! See even I learn things here!!!!!

T said...

Brother-Husband?? Jesus is all I have to say to that..

Jerking off and all the pouty stuff; the petty side would suggest one of these 'Brother-Husbands' wants out of their little situation and wants that person all to them self. The informative side gave up at the 'Brother-Husband' thing.

Anonymous said...

Everyone needs to masturbate. I really would assume they all knew that.