So many thoughtful responses to Friday's post. The writer has a lot of options to consider. The best might be to have a talk with this guy he's hooked up with and remain friends without the benefits until such time as he's ready to freely enter into a relationship (if that's what he wants).
In the meantime, the need to relieve aching nuts can't (or shouldn't) be ignored, either. Return to taking matters to hand (your own).
If the sensations of penetrative, thrusting are what you miss
as suggested by a couple of Readers, a FleshLight might be the route to take.