On my way in for a massage, a young guy stopped me. 'Course, my initial thought was he was panhandling. Instead he asked if he could ask a personal question. He was about to go in for his first time and was really nervous. "What do you do if you get a boner?"
I guess he figured the old dude was safe enough and experienced enough. My answer won't surprise any long-time reader of this blog. "If you get a boner, you get a boner. Don't worry about it. Masseurs know all about guys getting erections during a massage. They're taught during their training. They'll usually ignore it."
Getting a boner during a massage can happen.
Getting a boner during exercise, like running, can happen.
Getting a boner during a physical exam, can happen.
Getting a boner watching television can happen.
Getting a boner riding in a car can happen.
Getting a boner sitting in a classroom can happen.
Guys get boners when they have absolutely zero control over the thing.
"A Mind of its own."
Just accept that fact of life, stop worrying about it and stop being ashamed of it.
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It is better to have an unexpected erection than to no longer be able to have an erection.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean an Pat.
Have a great day.
Very sage advice.
Doctor: "Now, don't be embarrassed if you get an erection, Roger."
Patient: "My name isn't Roger."
Doctor: "Mine is!"
That dude at the top with the bulge can stop by for a free massage any time!
I'm not a masseur, but I know how to rub!
Looks like he might need to put his foot up in a Captain Morgan pose real soon now!
--PaulMmn
@ MFP - How right you are! Hugs and bisous.
@ PaulMmn - LOL. You gotta wonder how many times doctors have sprouted giving an exam.
I never can control when a boner arises, just enjoy.
MyFrenchPatrick is right. Every boner is a blessing.
And I've never had a massage done by a guy. Maybe I should try and see what happens???
XOXO
Lucky are they to have such unexpected bonners while older men like me cannot even have one even while watching a porn video.
So, don't bother or complain.
One of life's great mysteries. Hugs and bisous.
Boners are nothing to be ashamed about, yet we feel the need to try to excuse them as non-sexual. Why would it be so wrong if spontaneous boners were at least partly sexual?
Also, I expect the lad asking about boners before a massage was likely not so much worrying about a boner as what that might imply about him, such as being gay. Society really has done a job on men, instilling homophobia to the point that being gay is still feared.
In the 1700's and 1800's men and boys were discouraged from masturbating by fiendish devices and then later were dissuaded from sex as pleasure only sex in the service of your duty to procreate. For hundreds of years men's delight in their sexuality has been suppressed and its still happening with the concerns expressed by young men about their bodies today as if they are somehow evil. It hasn't been helped by feminism all but decrying male sexuality as evil because of the small percentage of coercive attempts, when a win-win outcome in expressing male sexuality whilst honouring womens choice over sex has never been pursued in lieu of an impulsive knee-jerk response to criminalise or at least discourage natural male sexual expression. Entrenching homophobia has prevented the evolution of men's sexual expression to involve more consensual options.
It's tragic that masseurs are not legally permitted to assist men explore more options in male sexual expression, in relative safety, as the environment is perfect for it.
It may even be possible that the lad's concern about boners was indirectly reaching out about exploring options for male sexual expression in trying to gain reassurance that he wouldn't be punished: such has been the history of male sexual exploration.
And then there is, apart from morning wood, the occasional piss boner during the day.
And the involuntarily hard-on sprouting while handling the cock at the urinal.
Those two scenarios are often experienced by myself. Mostly I enjoy them.
Or you might find a Body Electric trained masseur...
After asking about any needs or desires you’re aware of, I’ll start with you face down, getting the feel of your bones and joints. Gentle strokes applying oil all over. Then smooth oily strokes on your back, your butt, your legs, and your feet - some kneading and deeper work to make you more aware of all of your body. You're breathing long deep breaths, moaning or holding my cock… Some easy glides up and down the crease of your ass, finding out if you're one of the ass tribe, and need more attention there.
Asking you to turn over, connecting your heart and cock with my hands, breathing together. Oiling the front of your body, taking time with your cock to get erotic energy flowing, and then moving around the body spreading that energy. Belly circles, heart circles, U strokes up one leg, across the root chakra, and down the other leg. Getting up on the table with you and pulling you into my lap so I can reach everywhere. Keeping energy building through touch and breath, faster breath now, more charging. You can end quietly, or with a big draw, or you can shoot - your choice!
Then some quiet time - nothing to do, just feel and be – and then an opportunity for you to touch me…
I hada spontaneous ejaculation during my first few massages. The masseur (male=masseur, masseuse=female) never batted an eyelash. When I apologized profusely, he said he was not surprised because an 18-year-old is primed to ejaculate. He calmly skinned me back, cleaned my glans, and wiped the semen off my body, and went on with the massage. As we got to know each other better, he would masturbate me, and I would masturbate him. To this day, I do not consider it a complete massage unless I ejaculate. When I learned how to massage, I always insured that my clients, if they got erect, ejaculated.
I miss the spontaneity. Now? It's like waking the dead some days.
@ fullmoonma - A beautiful experience. I especially like the quiet time afterward, to just breathe and experience the peace of mind and body.
@ Anon, February 23, 2023 at 11:54 PM - The piss boner and the sprouting at the urinal are pretty common. At a certain age most men seem to accept and ignore them.
@ Upton - Yeah, those ***hard*** spontaneous boners happen less and less as we get older. It's cruel.
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