Friday, May 5, 2023

It's Treatable

 

"Though orgasm and ejaculation have often been separate events for me, I'm suddenly having almost all "dry-gasms", no matter the stimulation. Possible contributing factors:  age 71, vasectomy at age 33, and on an Rx of generic viagra for blood circulation."



Not many men separate orgasm from ejaculation --- particularly when we're young.





It's one thing to deliberately stave off ejaculation, it's another thing completely when you want to cum and then can't. And what good is that during Masturbation Month?


None of the things you mention are listed as reasons for what you're experiencing. It is not retrograde ejaculation. It does seem like there may be blockage --- which can lead to the sensation of orgasm but no ejaculation.



From what I could find, according to sites like Healthline, Mayo Clinic, and Health Direct, the most common causes of dry orgasms are "nerve damage due to diabetes, multiple sclerosis (MS), stroke, surgery or spinal cord injury, some medications such as those to treat high blood pressure and FloMax to treat an enlarged prostate."

And...stress and anxiety.


We may think it odd that an orgasm is a treatment for stress and anxiety and stress and anxiety can be the cause of dry-gasm. Yet, stress and anxiety can both cause ED.

The good news is that, if your doctor can determine the underlying issue, 


it very well may be treatable.



12 comments:

Mistress Maddie said...

I learn something new here everyday. I've never even heard of a dry-gasism.

Your French Patrick said...

I'm not sure your informations will ease your reader's stress and anxiety, but I certainly won't fault you for telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
Have a wondrous weekend.

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

Soooo
he hasn't been to a doctor? If anything like that happened to me (dry orgasm??) I'd RUN to the doctor. Run.

XOXO

Anonymous said...

Drygasm is basically the orgasm without ejaculation. Men tend to equate the two because usually they occur together and for many men they don't ever know any difference.

The question, which the OP and the response doesn't address, is whether an orgasm on its own is adequate or whether ejaculation adds something extra that one can't do without versus simply something we become habituated to, so that its loss is grieved rather than it actually diminishing the experience of pleasure.

The other question the OP didn't cover is whether he is able to have multiple sequential orgasms now ejaculation is not occurring, that might compensate for the loss of ejaculation. It's the mechanism of ejaculation that usually triggers a refractory period during which it is difficult to experience another orgasm for most men for a period of time.

For those who explore prostate stimulation it is possible to experience prostate-triggered orgasm without ejaculation and this means the possibility of multiple consecutive orgasms with little time between them.

The orgasm occurs in the brain due to the triggered release of "reward" chemicals, whilst being triggered itself by genital stimulation. However, it is possible to trigger an orgasm by recalling the sensations of orgasm in the brain itself (memory orgasm) or by "rewiring" the brain to associate stimulation of other body parts leading to orgasm. There have been people with spinal injuries that have trained themselves, with assistance, to associate the sensations of stroking a thumb for example as stimulation leading to orgasm. Others who have learned prostate triggered orgasm have been able to extend that to orgasm triggered just by their mind, on demand (and sometimes accidentally), without any stimulation at all.

Male sexuality is a surprisingly poorly studied or understood area by most men, who stick to very vanilla practices due to conditioning, habit and "if its not broken, don't try to fix it".

Anonymous said...

Forgot to add that, whilst the loss of ejaculation might be a concern because it is always associated with the pleasure of orgasm, it could be offset by the possibility of having multiple consecutive orgasms. However, I can appreciate losing that "fountain of celebration" as Bill Burr puts it, might seem like a huge loss because it is something men become habituated to from an early age and there is no encouragement to explore anything beyond it.

fullmoonma said...

It's also possible to choose dry orgasms over ejaculations, as I do. My tantra studies suggested this was a good response to aging - not discharging energy frequently. There's a good set of instructions on Bateworld: Bator Blog: Bator Life: Page 2 if you want to explore this after checking medical issues. I'd also suggest exploring taking Cialis rather than Viagra to get more continuous effects.

Big Dude said...

I have been lucky in that I have always been able to ejaculate. But as I have aged, the amount of semen, and it's consistency (thickness) have changed. My doc said it's solely due to age and I should not worry. He expressed a mild surprise that I could still ejaculate.

Peter said...

Aha: I do use Flomax to relieve frequent and urgent urination. I’ll try easing off on the flexible dosage to find a balance.

paulmmn said...

I like the man with a nice orgasm & ejaculation while getting an up-close and personal prostate massage!
-PaulMmn

Xersex said...

very interesting

Imagination said...

Thanks for the inspiring thoughts and interesting informations about DRY ORGASMS. I've reblogged your post in my blog and translated your wording into German:
https://real-sex-mainstream.blogspot.com/2023/05/dry-orgasms-trockene-orgasmen.html

whkattk said...

@ Imagination - Good to hear from you again!