Time Together

I had planned an update for the Sexual Recession post but AOM's post today inspired me to go in a different though somewhat related direction. AOM is correct that we tend to mourn the loss of relationships and focus on the end. His post Can Anything This Good Last Forever on that is well worth the read.

That post, with a related one he titled JO Budz brought back such fond memories for me. From afternoons spent with my brother and our buddies

to the circle jerks and jacking buddies in the military

 to the j/o club.

I mourned the loss of my ability to enjoy mutual masturbation. The end of it was a sad time in my life. But, I did enjoy those times and a few solid friendships remain.

Masturbation is something we all engage in alone but, as with any other activity we find pleasure in, sharing the experience is awesome. With the acceptance of humankind's sexual fluidity as fact it's now a much easier path to walk.

Even within relationships, mutual masturbation can, and is, a great way to spend some pleasurable time together.

A Greater Acceptance

CNN is airing a special series by Christiane Amanpour titled Sex and Love Around the World. It's interesting - especially in regards to the different attitudes found around the world. And, you can hardly discuss the topic without addressing nudity. While she is mostly interested in the way women view fulfillment in their lives when it comes to the difference between the sexes, she doesn't shy away from talking to men.

In the Berlin episode, she finds a greater acceptance of nudity and intimacy than pretty much anywhere else. There they are, sitting in parks or on the beaches, playing games, or otherwise enjoying their lives wearing, perhaps, only a pair of shoes.

 Though it does appear that men are less body-conscious than women, and more apt to shed the clothing. The only thing men seem to worry about when it comes to being naked in a public setting is getting a boner.

If you have access to CNN, it's worth the viewing time - despite the digital blurring of genitals by the cable network, which is a bit ironic considering the topic.

Without Guilt

I find it sad that anyone should feel guilty over doing something which is so utterly human and common. I fear, it's most likely, as one reader stated in yesterday's comments: this brother only feels guilty because his wife is now aware of it; that it's not guilt he is experiencing, it's embarrassment, it's shame.

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Married, heterosexual men aren't supposed to be jacking off - they're supposed to be having intercourse with their spouses. If heterosexual men do it at all, they certainly aren't supposed to whack the willy with other guys. They're supposed to pretend they never masturbate at all. Ever.

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It's like being ashamed you get boners.

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Which is hogwash. A man should never be ashamed of getting an erection.

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Solo sex - even when in the presence of other men - is extremely common.

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Yes, even for self-identifying heterosexual guys.

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Jack Off groups around the country are proof of that; they report that 25% of the guys are straight men who simply enjoy getting together with other males to engage in a very common activity. They report a strong sense of brotherhood.

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Dude, I hope you shed those emotions. Go back to enjoying time with your brother when the mood strikes you - without guilt - particularly when your spouses are okay with it.

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Cock Summit

Big Whack Attack :: Keeping the man parts healthy. That includes learning, and keeping, a healthy attitude about them. That means being proud of them, no matter how big or small, soft or hard, or in between.

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This announcement has been languishing in my inbox for a week now. The weekend of April 9, Bateworld.com is teaming up with Sexologist Dr. Jallen Rix for the very first Cock Summit. A weekend outside San Diego, CA, to shed body shame

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and celebrate

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To quote the invitation: "In the tradition of our pagan and faerie ancestors who recognized the importance of brazenly celebrating the phallus, we will throw our shame and conformity aside and revel in our masculine power under the sun. We will engage our compassionate camaraderie and bond with nurturing touch. In brotherhood, we will connect with our bodies and edify our diversity in every shape, size, length, age, color, hardness, softness, and ability. Around the fire we will howl at the moon, and pound the drum, and raise our phallus in honor of each and everyone’s worthiness of pleasure.

...bring it face-to-face and out in the open of nature’s acceptance. We will celebrate our dicks’ roaming freely and ruling our weekend."

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Gay, bi, straight, trans...whatever your identity. Everyone is welcome. This sounds like it is designed to raise self-esteem, to teach men how to reconnect with their cocks, get comfortable and proud of them; learn to get the utmost pleasure out of them.

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To register for this amazing weekend:

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