A New comment left on the post Str8 or Gay? from 2014.
"Hi,
I will try to be short....
when I got 20 year old, I discovered gay porn.
In 2008, I got a relation-ship with a girl, but I continued to watch gay porn. And I was happy when she break the relation.
In 2012, my first time with a boy. result: no very well.
In 2018, a new relation with a girl (she have a bf), when starting, all seems to be ok, but due to some stress with my job and his bf (his bf have a mental problem), my mind starting o go in hell, bad pictures in my head, ...
In december 2018, I decide to break.
January 2019, a sexdate with a boy and his big cock... I got little pain and some doubt.
Now, I found the bator way and by reading some blogs, maybe I'm just a bator ? Why, because I remember that when I was young I already bate by push my cock between my legs.
So, by the fact that I got addicted to gay porn and based on my experiences with girls, I think that I'm gay but reading this blog not help me to accept that.Anyone can help me about gay or not gay and if possible teach to be a good (gay) bator."
Well, you've run through the experimental stages of sexual awakening. It very well could be that you are strictly a solo-sexual - a bator, as you put it.
Whether you are gay, straight, or bisexual doesn't really matter. If you read through that old post before leaving your comment there, you might understand many, many straight men love gay porn. They get what they want to see (hard cocks and money shots) without all the other stuff.
Of course, "Not gay. Guy on guy." typically means no anal penetration. Straight porn is learning to give women more of what they're looking for: story, and meaningful connections. As the industry moves in that direction, men are discovering they can get what they want by watching gay videos.
As today's youth are now saying: Sexual orientation labels are not necessary.
Go enjoy what you enjoy.
But, my readers might have answers to your questions.
Is he "gay, or not gay? Can he learn to be a good (gay) bator?"
Readers?
But, my readers might have answers to your questions.
Is he "gay, or not gay? Can he learn to be a good (gay) bator?"
Readers?
12 comments:
It's possible he's just a solo-sexual like you said. Hot pix today!
Having lived in the closet until 1980, the label "Gay" was hard to accept, but wonderful when I finally did, and worn proudly ever since. I've never looked back. When I hear "Not gay, but man on man", to me, given my generation, I feel disappointed, but evolved. Been there, done that, with dudes who were in denial about their own sexuality.
I went through all of that; all the "I'll date a hot chick and fuck like bunnies!" (did that for two years), "I'll let myself be gay for a week"; "I'll watch Bi porn because it has titties and snatch in it". For me, finally I hit a breaking point and could not take any more of my own personal bullshit.
So my life advice is this: Try everything at least twice. I loved eating out snatch. Then I had a girlfriend who, after a year of me going down on her, went down on me. When she came up and I tasted MAN on her lips, that sealed me fate. I found myself plowing her like a rabbit afterwards dreaming of having that taste in my mouth again. We broke up a few months after that. Came out a six months after that.
Gay sex started off with "Ewww! I could NEVER do that!", but then tried it (at least TWICE). Fucking (dom/sub). Sucking cock. Eating cum. Rimming. Fisting (dom). Watersports. BDSM (dom and sub). Leather. Drag. Tried it all. Some things I found boring (leather and drag). Some things I grew tired of and sorta lost interest in (BDSM, rimming, fisting). Some things I learned I love doing solo (WS). Some things I live for; sucking cock, eating cum, fucking (you know, the basics).
So yes, I've evolved. I laud this new generation who says sexual orientation labels are not necessary - yes, go enjoy what you enjoy!
sure!!!
You are right, many, many straight men love gay porn. And even straight women, isn't it?
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
I think it is possible to enjoy gay porn without considering yourself to be gay. Seeing ejaculations celebrate the male body and I think it can empower a man to be more confident with his body and how his penis reacts. (Although I know that gay actors are not your regular guys in most cases.)
I think the reader just has not found the right sexual partner to establish a label. I would say consider yourself bi until you find yourself more if you have to use a label. Continue to find yourself.
I often wonder if it hasn’t always been that way, and we’re just figuring it out. Hot as blazes here!
Hugs and bisous.
I would like to say to your reader, as yourself, "enjoy what you enjoy", but not to confuse real life and fiction. We can love horror movies without wishing to meet a vampire, we can like crime movies without wanting to meet a serial killer, we can love gay porn movies without wanting to be gay. Curiosity is one thing, what we are is another. In the movies the ones we see are actors, and special effects are commonplace.
Bisous and good luck to him.
@ Jean - I think our geo-regions have swapped places. It's been cold, windy, cloudy, and some rain all month long. I keep waiting for my desert heat - evidently, you have it there! Hugs and bisous!
@ MFP - Well said. So many times young people confuse what they see on screen with what reality is, then they are sorely disappointed.
@ Rad - Good advice! Try things at least twice if they interest you. For instance, BDSM, fisting, nor WS hold any interest for me; therefore I wouldn't try them. So, he should continue to explore what he finds arousing.
hi all,
thank you for your answer...
I know that I'am additected to gay porn and true life is different than what porn show.
I also explored many sub community of gay porn: bdsm, pussyboy, sneakers boys, ...
I would add some details: when I was fucking my ex gf, in 9/10, I watched my cock, not his boobs. and each time, she was saying "play with my boobs or my clito".
I know too that it's always girl come to me.
When I excepted to be his non official boy friend (amant in french), I think that was only for help him. To have a someone to speack.
@ gay - Glad you came back to read the answers my readers gave. The guy may indeed just need an unofficial boyfriend just to have someone to speak to who might understand his own situation. Enjoy the relationship for what it is. In other words, don't worry about labeling yourself or what you enjoy. Enjoy yourself!
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