From the mail bag:
"Why won't my husband let me watch him masturbate? He admits he does but won't let me see him."
Wow. Well, it most likely stems back to childhood. For all the progress society has made in talking about it, unless our parents were open and honest when we were teens we guys will have a very tough time getting past that. It takes time and, more to the point, it takes deliberate intent. Admitting it is the first step, so he's on the right path.
You'll have to encourage him. Instead of saying you want to see him masturbate (or jerk off), tell him you want to see him make love to himself so you can be a better lover for him.
Perhaps you can get him started. Get him good and hard. Put his hand around his cock with your hand over his, Once you get him to stroking, don't simply back off and watch.
Don't leave him to his own devices.
Lean in and kiss his neck.Tease his nipples, run a hand along the inside of his thighs, lightly run your fingernails along his ballsac.
In other words, for the first few times, contribute so it doesn't seem so much like he's performing for you. Let him get used to you seeing him with his hand wrapped around his shaft.
Eventually, he should not only allow you to watch,
he might discover the exhibitionist in himself and get to like it.
11 comments:
Great post and great pix!
Shrewd and useful tips. Which can be needed even between men. Maybe she could also offer to masturbate herself with him at the same time.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
I think gay men are alot more open to partners watching them. I know the Lad and I sometimes have as hot jack off sessions as sex itself. We sometimes even have a friend or two join.
very erotic!
Great idea when you suggested that the wife can get him started. Having the wife behind me, kissing my neck would get me going. Generally I am reading or watching porn when I masturbate so if the wife is against porn it could be a show stopper.
Hey Bro! I like the advice you gave . Thanks for all you do for us. I hope you and yours are doing well, my Friend. I wish you a Wank-a-licious Day! Hugs, Licks, and Strokes, AOM
It’s all about communication. Some folks may like their privacy and others like companionship. Viva la difference.
Hugs and bisous.
That was some hot advice! I can see how that could open up the possibilities by the subtle touches as he masterbates and the way of asking to watch him make love to himself. Hope to hear a follow up on this couple.
There's a HUGE difference between "Can i watch you?" and "Can i join in with you?" I'd feel very weird having someone just watch me wank, but very happy to have someone masturbate with me. So maybe the wife could offer to join in with her husband and pleasure herself while he pleasures himself. Might even lead to mutual pleasuring each other at some point in the future!
For me, personally, it's more of she knows I masturbate with other guys. I only do if our ladies approve, mind. But the reaction ranges from encouragement ("Great! Can I watch?") to acceptance ("What man doesn't?") to mild rejection ("At least you don't now...") to extreme rejection ("Why are you with me if you're gay [sic]?")
There's been a shift toward scceptance, but when I was younger, many women would get jealous of my own masturbation. (That my friends called me Claymore because I sometimes use both hands...)
the man who won't let his wife watch-- maybe he likes to finger
his hole-- and he's never had his wife do it to him! And he's
feeling guilty about something that he thinks his wife will think
makes him partly 'gay.'
Tell them both-- if he's doing something he feels guilty about,
confess! God didn't load the asshole with all of those nerve endings
just for fun. Er, yes, he did! - P
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