Thank you Bruce and Bryn for acknowledging and doing the Buddy Ball Check yesterday. Though, one Anon admitted that the ball check would most likely end in masturbation. If you missed it, get busy!
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A couple years ago during a discussion about nudist retreats (he and his family belong to one), he piped up and said men can control their boners. I disagreed.
If something registers in your brain as erotic, your cock is going to get hard. Simple as that. In our youth, it will pop up for no reason at all other than raging hormones adding to the Blood Oxygen supply that causes those awkward boners we tried to hide behind our books.
Education for boys is so sorely lacking. Not just in the U.S., but around the world. Learning about our bodies is too often left to us to stumble upon. The erections, the ejaculations, and everything that goes with them.
One Faithful Reader asks:
"The lack of sexual education is not surprising when you consider that behaviours of Fathers are often passed down to sons and in previous generations, shame about sexuality was (and still is) an issue. When are we going to take a greater role in ensuring all boys' sexual potentials are maximised instead of leaving it to chance?"
How much information is too much? How detailed should we get in informing young men about their bodies and how they function?
What do you think, Readers?
13 comments:
There should be sex education classes in schools. And remedial lessons for adults who have not benefited from them.
It's life. And if we don't teach our children about life, what else? A job? Of course, but they are not robots to be programmed.
Hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.
I think more is needed. I remember when getting older and the hair grew, and penis got bigger, I was like what's going on? And then the first ejaculation sacred the hell out of me. It was till a cousin slept over that he asked if a jacked off and I was like what? Then I was hooked, and we explored other things also. Even if parents aren't comfortable, it's a shame there isn't a service to teach kids, the ins and outs so to speak they could go to then. Since the word "sex" isn't even mentioned in school anyone or health classes offered.
to tell the truth, if I don't have erotic thoughts, I don't have any erections.
I could not agree with you more, even if it is just a matter of father’s directing their sons to websites like yours. My parents never said a word about body functions or sex to me while I was growing up (ever). One day, as a teenager, while I was home and my parents were out, I was enjoying the feeling of the sun on my body in my room and without any other encouragement, I had my first ejacuation. It was a little painful and scared me to death. I was determined that I must have broken something. Obviously totally unprepared, it took a few weeks before I finally decided that I must not have broken anything. Just would have been nice to have some idea of what to expect or at least felt remotely comfortable asking questions.
I'm glad I don't have kids (that I know of).
Oh, sex education sucks. Not the good way either.
The sad thing is that in this time of 'everything online' YouTubers creating fantastic sex ed videos get demonetized. Yep, I'm looking at cha, Google.
Fuck you, Google, because you let Nazis post content but not sex educators.
XOXOX
Anon friend here- Your faithful reader is spot on about sex ed for guys sorely lacking. He said it best about the information being passed on through generations. How can our father be an authority on sex ed, if he himself didn't have much information passed on to him. My dad was born in the 40s, and his dad born about 1920. So they didn't have the internet, and I'm not aware of any books they might have had. Makes me wonder where they got their knowledge. Were they ever as clueless as I feel at times? I applaud the guys that want to improve on future generations. Thanks for what you do here!
I am in the “quality versus quantity” camp. There’s nothing worse than misinformation. Hugs and bisous.
@ Jean - Misinformation seems to be the way of the Right Wingers with more than just the topic of sex education. We've just managed to survive 5 years of it. Yikes!! Hugs and bisous!!
That's a hot daddy in that last photo. Woot woot. We'll never have the kind of sex education needed in this country because 50 percent of the population thinks it's 'gay' or somehow inappropriate for men to talk to men about their dicks. Yes, THEY are dicks, but they refuse talk about them.
our dad was very detailed with me and R. thank god for that because we've been able to enjoy our dicks and admit it. it sure has helped in dating too knowing what to do. - r
I was born in 1940 (gasp) and sex did not exist for my generation -- period! Having lived and worked on a farm in the 50s was interesting as all that animal sex was going on but not mention of what it all meant in terms of humane beings -- of course bathrooms were not talked about either and bodily functions also fell into the silent treatment. I remember being told that boys who wore tight pants would get into trouble(!) and that girls were not be be looked at -- its was confusing as the body indicated one thing but society said no. And since sex was never talked about I wonder what role that played in the climbing divorce rate in the 50s.
@ Anon 16 Nov 6:50pm - my Dad was born in the mid 1930's and had no sex education from his Father. In speaking with him about this in my 40's, he said he learned through experimentation and talking with friends and assumed I would be the same. Consequently he never told me much about sex when I was a lad and now I know why, but I really missed out because I was an anxious person, often interpreting events negatively so was reluctant to experiment and I had no friends whom I could ask. In an ideal world, I might have been able to follow his example, but I suspect many young men are not in an ideal situation and leaving their sexual futures simply to chance is not on: we don't do that with general education and we shouldn't take that risk with something of great importance to all men. I'm guessing that my Father could have passed on the wisdom he had accumulated, but chose not to: perhaps there was an element of wanting me to develop confidence in self discovery (but that assumes suitable circumstances) or assuming I would ask (if I knew what to ask about).
@ Anon 17 Nov 9:00am - your Dad was a great guy preparing you to fully enjoy your sexuality and advancing confidence in developing relationships: you don't have to re-invent the wheel and stumble around in complete trial and error mode. Even apprentices receive instruction and often demonstration before developing the skills themselves.
It amazes me that after millennia of civilisation, most people have to effectively re-invent the wheel in relating sexually to others without the benefit of wisdom accumulated from the past.
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