Potpourri

 

Morning.

Today is the 15th. You know what to do.

Yesterday was Bastille Day --- and I forgot! Patrick would be disappointed. Sorry about that!

A request from a Faithful Reader to post this:

"I've emailed you before and wanted to tell you about recent activities that may help your readers.  

I turned 72 years old a few days ago.  I am a gay man, married and in a monogamous relationship with my husband, which works for us.

As a younger man, I was sexually active relatively early in life and enjoyed jackoff sessions with friends. I had no problem with boners - as a matter of fact, I often found myself hard in public without stimulation.  Anyway, I found that the boners subsided as I reached my 60's and I now depend upon ED medication to ensure.

As my hubby and I reached our 60's, I found it increasingly difficult to stay hard during anal sex (we are both versatile).  We talked about different forms of intimacy including toys and anal stimulation.  We bought a Fleshlight which we both enjoy using and a vibrating prostate massager which has become a favorite of both of us. We've both used it with masturbation and thoroughly enjoyed it.  We now include prostate play and massage as part of our sexual menu. 

We had sex on my birthday so I took an ED tab and I inserted the prostate massager while he gave me head; he masturbated with the Fleshlight. To make a long story short, I had one of the most intense orgasms of my life!  I started cumming (and yelling) and just when I thought it was over, I spasmed again which sent him over the edge.  

I know that butt play can be a difficult topic for some but I hope that some of your readers will at least consider the subject.  It probably isn't for everyone but give it a try.  It just might work for you, too."

The Prostate is considered the Male G Spot - there are many ways to stimulate it. Internally with whatever you enjoy, or externally by pressing and massaging the very root of the cock just next to the anus.

Whichever you prefer can help attain and maintain those boners.

Particularly as we get older.

Anejaculation

 

"I been having troubel for quite a while now that I can't cum. We tried everything hand jobs blow jobs titty fucking regular fucking and its all a no go. I tried the ass cheek squeeze like you said to make me cum and that didn't work.I can't even cum when I try to jack off. This is getting I can't stand it anymore and my nuts are killing me. What the hell is going on?"

What you are are experiencing is typically labeled Delayed Ejaculation (DE) if it takes longer than you or your partner want it to. If you can't cum at all, it's called Anejaculation. But, hold on....because it sounds like this is something new, or fairly recent.

Cleveland Clinic says:

"Delayed ejaculation or not ejaculating at all is a condition that is still being studied. There aren’t a lot of absolute guidelines about how much time is too much time to ejaculate, how delayed ejaculation should be treated or what causes it. But it’s a problem when it’s a problem for you and for your partner. Many people might think not ejaculating for a relatively long period of time in a sexual situation would be a good thing. However, in many cases, longer sexual activity isn’t resulting in more pleasure. It’s actually causing stress and even physical problems for all partners involved. It’s important to have honest conversations with your healthcare provider and your partner about all of your concerns."

One cause they list is a "blockage." And that is what happened to me in my early 30s. Like you, we tried everything and my balls ached something awful. My wife actually made the appointment with a urologist and sent me packing.

He asked a few questions, then did a full exam.

My prostate was swollen and he massaged it. After a few minutes my cock got extremely hard. He stood me up, spun me around, and used milking strokes until I came all over the place.

"Severe prostate infection caused a blockage." He sent me off with a prescription for antibiotics and instructions to supplement sex by jacking off at least twice a week.

You Gotta Try It

 

"I saw the comment from anonymous about prostate fun and decided I had to write. I've been reading this blog for a long time and everytime there was a post about ass play I thought what a load of gay bullshit crap. Right up until got my first prostate exam. Talk about an instant hardon and bent over that table thought I would gonna shoot right there. I kept my back to him to pull my pants over my dick so he wouldn't know.  It took some doing but finally my wife agreed to use a strap on and I blew biggest load of my life. Now whenever I want scream out loud toes cureled orgasm I'll lay down and toss my legs in the air and she straps up and plunges in.  I swear to you my straight bros you want to cum and cum hard like never before you gotta try it."

I hate to break it to you, but I'm pretty sure your doctor knew about that raging boner. From the view he had, and the position of his finger(s), an erection is pretty difficult to miss.

The root portion of the shaft runs along the Perineum (the Taint) and the girth matches the part of your cock you can see,

There's a reason for that full-on boner, or at least a semi, during your prostate exam. Pressure on the gland helps with blood retention in the cock. You can test that theory by using external prostate pressure at the very root end --- right above the anus.

It's taking straight guys years to catch on and understand what many gay men have known and experienced for ... well, forever. The male G-Spot is the prostate. As the idea spreads, the issue becomes --- as you've found out --- convincing their wives and girlfriends of that. As Dan Savage keeps saying, partner satisfaction in the bedroom is all about GGG (Good, Giving, and Game).

Not convinced yet, straight dudes? There are options to try it without anyone else knowing. The Aneros Prostate Massager, or even the Butt Plug.

The other thing that should make it perfectly clear that the prostate is a pleasure palace? Try externally massaging your prostate next time you jack off.

Solving the Problem

 

We men love our boners. It's part of our mental well being as much as the physical. When dysfunction strikes, it can create deep depression.

Big Pharma struck gold with their boner pills. Now Sound Wave therapies have shown up.

But there's one therapy which has been largely overlooked.

Massage Therapy.

 For Erectile Dysfunction (ED)?

Absolutely. How can that be?

Well, consider that the base cause is a lack of blood flow, which in turn rather starves the nerves. Massaging the perineum and prostate can induce blood flow to the area and, over time, feed those malnourished nerves.

But, you might think that with the home remedy prostate massagers you can do the job yourself. According to the this article from Healthline, Massage Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction, through studies, doctors are now realizing that massaging the groin area can actually help.

Your doctor may have someone on staff who is trained in this treatment, or may be able to recommend a therapist who is.

As the article points out, being honest with your doctor is the first step in solving the problem.