Jean connected my up with a short video.
It says a lot about how we are raised in this country - perhaps others. But, here in the States it's pervasive.
Males are raised to be less than human - without emotions. We're taught that men don't express their emotions - other than anger. I even remember when my own father began my "training." I was around 7, my mother had gone to visit a brother in California and I missed her. I cried. That's when my father began to call me names: Pansy and crybaby; telling me boys don't cry.
Needless to say, my relationship with him only worsened; it never did recover. But, boy! did the lesson stick. Sadly, even today, I can't allow myself to cry even in front of my wife. I have to be in serious pain to do that.
We truly need to get men on track. Instead of clamming up, we should be able to talk to one another, discuss serious things, to have intimate relationships with our male friends. That doesn't mean anything sexual - just supportive of each other.
Shedding shame that we feel hurt, disappointment, and love, that we can have a deep, caring relationship with a friend, is a tough thing for men - but, if we expect to become whole human beings, it must be done.
What's your experience with this?
Do you admit to it?