Monday, February 5, 2018

No Shame

This is something of a delicate subject for me...and it's never been covered here on the blog. Domestic abuse is not reserved to the realm of men against women. The most unreported cases by victims are men. Statistics say that 1 in 4 women are victims; 1 in 7 are men. It's believed that those numbers would be equal if men reported the abuse. Straight guys are even more afraid to file a report than anyone. They are afraid of the ridicule by the police; and denial by the justice system.
In November 2017, police were called to the scene of a double murder-suicide. A man had shot and killed his wife and 5-year old (?) son, then shot himself in the head. Upon further investigation, it was revealed the man had called police numerous times, filed complaints, filed charges that went nowhere, and asked for restraining orders.
Just as there's no shame in what you were born with,

take no shame in protecting yourself.
Male or female, if you are a victim of domestic violence, do not remain silent. Tell someone, seek help, seek shelter. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline:
1−800−799−SAFE (7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224


SickoRicko said...

Thanks for bringing this out in the open.

Patrick said...

Interesting! Two women were arrested here yesterday for sexual abuse of teenage boys! Great post as always! Thanks for your visits!

A French Patrick said...

If the women remain, by far, the first victims of domestic violence, the case of the beaten or mistreated men is less exceptional than we could believe it. In France, with a total of 149.000 in 2012 and in 2013, the men represent 27 % of the cases of domestic violence and 17 % of the mortal cases. This violence, more taboo, is badly represented by the statistics. The men speak about it less, declare it less. When 10 women on 100 lodge a complaint further to the violence which they underwent, only 3 men on 100 dare to turn to the justice. As regards the children, 14 % have been victims of ill-treatments, physical, sexual and psychological, and 60 % have never dared to speak about it before the grown-up age.

Little did Plautus know just how right he was when he said: "Homo homini lupus" (man is a wolf to man).

But, to end on a more positive note, the law of silence is losing ground, the organizations of defense of the victims are more and more numerous.
All of them fighting in their own corner, working in isolation, when it is not one against another. Why? For being less powerful?

Love, hugs and bisous, my darlings Jean and Pat.

mistress maddie said...

Your right...a quite subject for sure. It is not uncommon for gay men to get battered by their partner either. I had a good friend who partner had a drinking problem and abused him terribly. It took a lot of coaxing to finally get him to leave him.

Jean WM said...

Good advice. Amen. Super Bowl Sunday is usually the number one day for the Mestic abuse. Hugs and bisous.

Gabriel said...

Life is too short for anyone to endure a domestic violence situation. I hope that anyone finding themselves in that situation does reach out for help. You have a big heart for those who are hurting, Whkattk. Thanks for bringing this subject to our attention.

Xersex said...

useful post as usual and beautiful images!

whkattk said...

@ MFP - It is the same in the US with regards to the % of men who will turn to the justice system for help. Sadly, men are the cause of the low % of reporting.

whkattk said...

@ Jean - Yep. And, perhaps, that is what put it to mind for me. All that testosterone pumped up by the game, emotions soar, and men don't know what to do with it - they haven't been taught how to properly channel it all.