Thursday, October 24, 2013

What If


What if... What if...

Mankind spends an almost inordinate amount of time fretting over so many things. A lot of the time they are things we shouldn't be too, too worried about. One of those things is the occasional difficulty in raising a really good log of wood. Mind you, I said occasional.

As O!Daddie pointed out, depression can lead to a downer dick. Undue fretting over it can make it worse, deepen our depression, and make us think our boner days are over for good. Which can really send us into a tailspin.

If you suffer from depression and your cock won't stand up - or get hard enough to enjoy - there may be help. Clinical erectile dysfunction (ED) is defined as the inability to get and maintain an erection rigid enough for penetration. But, don't let your droopy dick get you down.

There are many medications that cause ED - many of which are anti-depressants. If you take any medication that has your dong down, go see your doctor. Ask him if there might be a different medication that will allow your stick to stand up again.

If the answer is "Sorry, no." you don't have to give up your favorite plaything. You can still have fun with it. Why? How? you may ask. Well, it still has feeling, doesn't it? A fingernail dragged across the head or frenulum still creates sensation, right? You still know when a hand is wrapped around it, stroking, teasing, and playing. You can tell when your balls are being bounced around. It still feels nice. So, relax and enjoy it.

Yes, of course, we all want our cocks raging, throbbing hard; dripping pre-cum like a leaky faucet; the spurts of jizz flying out with such force it splatters in all directions. But, the reality is not always what we would like it to be. You may be surprised at how great it can be when you take the pressure off your pecker to perform to your expectations.

Instead of contributing to the demise of your dick, furthering the dilemma, kick back and take pleasure in the sensations. Focus on them. And, as you do, bear in mind that an orgasm is not the same as an ejaculation. Orgasm is possible without a great big boner. 




Orgasm is possible without shooting a big load of cum.




iama{GAY}tekeeper said...

thanks for posting this

Queer Heaven said...

years ago I had a dear sweet fuck buddy,who was bipolar. When he was not on his meds he was rock hard and always ready to go. But when he was on his med... he stayed softer than just boiled spaghetti.
I learned how to massage his Dick and his prostate. He would have amazing orgasms with out getting the least bit hard.

Your French Patrick said...

LOL, my dear friend,
As I have not seen you yesterday, I thought that you had abundantly toasted your 500th follower with drinks flowing freely and that you had a hangover after your alcohol-fueled evening, or that, this victory acquired, you had considered that it was not necessary to go farther.
I was wrong on all the points, I am delighted to have made a mistake and happy to apologize.
Have a wondrous day with my hotest wet bisous from your head to your toes.

Jack Scott said...

For over 50 years, sex was one of the great gifts of my life. I was married at 18 and sex with my wife got better and better though the years.

I had my share of sex with other guys and it was fun, but I liked the guys just for male friends that I could talk about anything with. My wife always remained my primary sexual partner. I know that is probably unusual, but its the way it was.

Five years ago I was diagnosed with virulent Prostate Cancer that soon metastasized to other organs. The basic treatment for such cancer is to take a man's testosterone down to zero. My testosterone level had always been very high and when they took it down to zero, it robbed me not only of my sexuality but much of my energy and vigor.

Later, the use of chemotherapy added insult to injury. There is no way to really think of chemotherapy as anything but poison to good cells, cancer cells, and brain cells.

One of the things that sustains me is the fact that I made the most of my sexuality for all those years. I miss sex, but I enjoy the memories, not in a haunting way, but a very good way.

I also think the deep bonds that sex helped to build between me and wife keeps us together now that sex is no longer possible.

I had several long term buddies through the years. All but two of them are long gone. I can't blame them. Who wants to be exposed to all the crap that goes along with Prostate Cancer. However the two that have hung around are a great blessing to me. We no longer have sexual relations, but we have transitioned into very close friends who now enjoy the other mutual interests that we have.

I have found there are basically two kinds of people in the world when it comes to dealing with challenges. Those who sulk, cry or loose themselves in anger and self pity, and those who count their blessing through it all and cling to a state of grace as best they can. Those in the second category are happier.

When I count my blessing, I always find the infinitely out number my challenges.

Jack Scott

Your French Patrick said...

@ Jack Scott,
I am a faithful reader of your blog for a long time.
I read your comment and I do not need to hesitate between to present my condolences or my congratulations to you: wholeheartedly both, indisputably.
Kindest regards.


Just play with it! Something will happen!

O!Daddie now at said...

It's a bit difficult to convince someone you love that the sum of him is way more than just the stiffness of his cock.

Justin said...

Valium is a bitch, jerked and jerked to no avail. Very frustrating. Thankfully it was only a short term thing. To lose the ability to orgasm is akin to losing a limb.

whkattk said...

@ Jack Scott - You are a very lucky man - and an extremely smart one, to boot.
I would encourage you and your two long-term buddies (who have hung around) to get naked once in a while and just enjoy one another's bodies again. A hard-on is not required to enjoy one's cock, nor is it required to have an orgasm.
I so much enjoy your blog. Allow me to say thank you for that - and for the courage you exhibit!

whkattk said...

@ YFP - Mon ami, you make me smile! I accept your apology - not because it is due, but because I want all those bisous!